After time, and with our busy schedules these days, it gets hard to sometimes get in the mood. 

Getting in the mood is about your mindset, 95% of it is all in our heads. So, lets clear our heads with some amazing FREE natural body chemical release tips.

TIP 1. Hit the gym

Let’s be honest, as women we have some serious body issues. With the majority of women refusing to have sex with the lights on, we feel we need to feel good about our body image before we let anyone close.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re a size 8 or size 22, never had a baby or had a tribe, women are image conscious.

I myself was not happy with the changes in my body during my mid 30’s and I’m a small build.

I realised that unconsciously it was messing with my head and had to do something about it. Off I went to the gym to do a little Pilates and before I knew it I felt better and was happy to not only get naked in front of someone, but got upset when he turned the lights off!

The gym helps to release feel good endorphins into your system, which actually makes sex appealing all of a sudden.

You start to feel better and your self-esteem increases and you start tapping into your inner sex goddess.

Now I want to state here for all those ‘lights off’ women, I read an article written by a man recently about this topic and women’s paranoia with their body image and making love.

He stated, “Men don’t care what you look like. They are just happy you’re letting them touch you!”

TIP 2. Get the housework done

So the biggest distraction when attempting to be intimate with your partner and the biggest reason women don’t reach the Big ‘O’, is that instead of concentrating on the job on hand, you are too busy thinking about all the things you still haven’t done, all those niggling tasks and chores of the day.

Tip – if your not relaxed you won’t reach orgasm. So, get all your chores done (or make it clear to your partner that if they want some bootie time they need to help you with this list) and then sit back and relax.

Sex and orgasms are actually an amazing stress relief!

TIP 3. Check the temperature

What? I here you say. A study done in the Netherlands actually proved that women having cold feet during sex could actually hinder her orgasm!

By just adding socks to female subjects, orgasms increased from the original 50% to a massive 80% of subjects!

So make sure you haven’t just set the scene with a relaxing atmosphere that includes both the lighting and music (ambience) but maybe have a relaxing bath together (or shower) and slap on a pair of socks!

TIP 4.  30 second rule 

Now get close. Studies have shown that holding your partner close for 30 seconds triggers the release of oxytocin, the hormone that emboldens trust and sexual desire between intimately familiar people.

Then, make sure you take a deep breath. Inhaling your partners scent usually acts as an aphrodisiac. Mmmmmmm

TIP 5.  5 minute rule

Now we are ready for that 5 minute deep passionate kiss. Kissing releases adrenaline, and endorphins that are 200 times more powerful than morphine.

It’s a relaxant, stress reliever, great for your general health and the ultimate way to get an awakening stir in all the right bits!

TIP 6. 10 minute rule 

Now, if you’re still saying that hasn’t worked its time for the 10 minute rule. Even if you’re not in the mood, give yourself 10 minutes to give intimacy a shot.

That time gives your body a chance to catch up to what your mind is wanting, sex. It works!

  • I use the 10 minute rule for exercise- if I do it for 10 minutes I can stop if I want to. Once you get started you usually keep going. So it might just work for this too.


  • Love rule 2~


  • Get information!


  • Interesting. Must give a few of them a go!


  • Get the housework done made me giggle.


  • socks!


  • seems to be some of the best ways to get into perfect mood,Loved it


  • Thanks for any interesting read must get my socks on lol


  • some interesting things here might go put some socks on


  • I just had to come back in and read what others thought about wearing the socks – sock sales might soar ;-)

    • I will say the first time I heard about the socks theory I thought it was crazy till one day I couldn’t concentrate as my feet were cold. So I gave it a go and after 10 minute they were nice and warm and I was totally focused again on the job at hand :)


  • Interesting article and a good read with good tips; Socks!


  • Socks that’s new ? I think hubby would have a good laugh , get not just get under the covers or put the heater on !

    The 10 min rule is new . At good reminder every woman is beautiful and most men just wanna tough you , as baby’s / kids seem to have all access to you and your body and partners / hubby’s don’t get a chance . Gotta make time got them too , a mothers job is never done ;)


  • These are some great tips.. I really enjoyed reading this.


  • You aren’t serious are you? Wearing socks during sex/lovemaking?? Personally I couldn’t think of a better thing to kill romance and that special time. :-(

    • Hahahaha I know…I thought the same thing but thats what the research shows. Pretty much its just saying that if we are distracted (and having cold feet is just another one to the long list of distractions floating around in women’s head as a distraction) that putting on socks solves this distraction quick.
      Maybe someone should start making some sexy socks.
      They could make a killing!!!!


  • The 10 minute rule? That’s a new one.


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