I was reflecting on those first precious few weeks of new baby the other day with a friend.  I remembered how I felt on top of the world to be walking with my new baby and toddler to the shops. This was a monumental achievement in the first few weeks of having two kids under the age of 2.  I remember the local community actively noticed that my bump was now a baby in a carrier or stroller.  Having said that one person asked me if I have actually had the baby – at which point I looked down at my ‘wobbly’ bump in utter disbelief!

A lot of people asked after our Little Lady and how she was doing, often followed up with – is she a good baby?  Mmmmm, Let me think about that.

I struggle with this description as the opposite to Good is….Bad.  So was she a good baby?  Yes – because if she wasn’t I would be saying she was a bad baby – which of course she wasn’t!   I also remember not wanting to jinx myself!

So I started using other words to describe newborn behaviour:

  • Amazing
  • Great
  • Fabulous
  • Challenging
  • Tiring
  • the list goes on…

I think what people are really trying to ask is:

  • Does she sleep well
  • Is she feeding
  • Are you sleeping
  • Is she settled
  • Does she cry a lot
  • the list goes on….

And of course she did all of these things…Sometimes she was unsettled, other times she gifted us an 8 hour sleep overnight.  Sometimes she wanted to be cuddled and not go back in her bassinet (grrr) – other times she was so flaked out she has no idea she spent the morning at a cafe, beach and in the car!

So for me, the ‘Good ‘v’ Bad baby’ is language I prefer not to use.

Don’t get me wrong I do not correct people, I just choose to broaden the adjectives and use more positive language!

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  • Plenty of time for labels, I think you answered rightly. They are probably asking how she is going.


  • True no such thing as a good or a bad baby, they all have their moments.


  • People do say the weirdest things without thinking. My son in the stroller at 14 months was big for his age. A lady heard him speaking and said he is a bit slow for his age! When I asked her how old did she think he was, she said 3. I replied that he was only 14 months old and was actually speaking above average for his age. This baby won a high school academic scholarship;…… So, think before you speak.

    • I know what you mean… ours is a big baby too (very tall) and we had her at the park and she was only around 9 months old. We carried her around and showed her the swings and then sat with her in the grass. One mum asked ‘aren’t you taking her on the swings?’ and when I replied that she was a bit young she gave me a look until I said how old she actually was. Another mum exclaimed with ‘isn’t she walking yet’… again, um, she’s only 9 months. And I say they were mums as they were there with their own kids.


  • Problem with being a new mum and sooooo tired is it can be easy to take offence at nothing – glad you didn’t!


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