I was reflecting on those first precious few weeks of new baby the other day with a friend.  I remembered how I felt on top of the world to be walking with my new baby and toddler to the shops. This was a monumental achievement in the first few weeks of having two kids under the age of 2.  I remember the local community actively noticed that my bump was now a baby in a carrier or stroller.  Having said that one person asked me if I have actually had the baby – at which point I looked down at my ‘wobbly’ bump in utter disbelief!

A lot of people asked after our Little Lady and how she was doing, often followed up with – is she a good baby?  Mmmmm, Let me think about that.

I struggle with this description as the opposite to Good is….Bad.  So was she a good baby?  Yes – because if she wasn’t I would be saying she was a bad baby – which of course she wasn’t!   I also remember not wanting to jinx myself!

So I started using other words to describe newborn behaviour:

  • Amazing
  • Great
  • Fabulous
  • Challenging
  • Tiring
  • the list goes on…

I think what people are really trying to ask is:

  • Does she sleep well
  • Is she feeding
  • Are you sleeping
  • Is she settled
  • Does she cry a lot
  • the list goes on….

And of course she did all of these things…Sometimes she was unsettled, other times she gifted us an 8 hour sleep overnight.  Sometimes she wanted to be cuddled and not go back in her bassinet (grrr) – other times she was so flaked out she has no idea she spent the morning at a cafe, beach and in the car!

So for me, the ‘Good ‘v’ Bad baby’ is language I prefer not to use.

Don’t get me wrong I do not correct people, I just choose to broaden the adjectives and use more positive language!

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