I had a similar situation years ago. My husband’s adult niece moved into our tiny 2 bedroom unit & it really put pressure on our relationship, his family were a pain in the neck & had pressured me into agreeing with it. You never have any private time with an extra person in your home, how many times did any of you wander into the kitchen for a drink in the middle of the night naked? Well that has to stop once you have an extra person in the home.
After 6 months of his niece living with us I gave the ultimatum where she had to go or I would leave. I don’t blame this lady not wanting an adult to move in even if it is his daughter & as for the old wives tale that when you marry a person you also marry their family you should have control over who lives in yr home & anything else that involves you. Family members often put strain on relationship by demanding that you conform to their wishes, I used to allow it but the last time I did I ended up being pushed into marrying the wrong person. Don’t allow anyone to push you around at home whether it be family or someone else, I have seen so many relationships fail because trying to get 2 different families to live harmoniously can be problematic.
Published 8th December 2019