Young couple request neighbours provide them with meals and do their housework after the birth of their new baby.

The Philadelphia couples requests on “giving” website Meal Train listed 30 diet-specific recipes, and if those could not be provided, asked for neighbours to perform chores such as washing their dishes or walking their dog.

“As the father-to-be, I’m teetering on a fence of emotions,” the dad-to-be wrote on Meal Train, though the post has since been deleted.

“One of the things I’m most afraid of is not getting a great deal of sleep and as a result not being in the best frame of mind to offer my wife the support she needs to recover from the child-birthing process.

“That’s why I’m putting together this ‘Meal-Train’ or ‘Mental-health check-in train’ or ‘Do you need any help today train,’“ he continued.

“A meal would be awesome. If you feel comfortable reaching out before you arrive to see if we might need anything else — that’d be even more awesome.”

Included in their list of requests were their favourite meals for breakfast, lunch and dinner, including paleo breakfast egg muffins with thinly sliced cremini mushrooms, chocolate peanut butter energy balls and lamb meatball stew with orzo.

“If we could use some food but prefer no distractions, I’ll put a big white cooler in our side yard,” Burns wrote.

While the posting has been deleted, one neighbour, Jack Jokinen shared screenshots to Twitter.

“I think it’s way too much and completely out of touch,” Jokinen told the New York Post.

“Maybe there’s some bigger issue that we don’t know about, like a health issue, but in those situations you put that [information] in … it seems like the husband is unprepared and his primary concern is his sleep. There are a lot of ways to make meals very quickly.”

The parents-to-be are expecting their child to arrive on April 29. They received quite some backlash as you can imagine.

“I apologize if it was taken the wrong way — and I’m frankly just very surprised and a little disheartened by … the response,” the dad-to-be who says the post was mainly for friends and family, told the Post.

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What do you think? Good idea or totally ridiculous?

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  • im not too sure about this for strangers but would accept from families and friends. I would possibly think a brochure of ideas to help meal freeze stock up for when the baby comes, I would happily accept that and have a look. normally families and friends help out with meals when they ask. I had my freezer stocked up and my mum came over with meals until I was moveable.


  • Probably not going to get a lot of takers but hey if you don’t want to don’t and just move on. Not something I would be doing but I don’t have a problem with people asking.


  • Sorry but if that came through my letterbox it would’ve ended up in the bin! A bit entitled


  • If it was aimed at just family and close friends then it’s probably okay but not so much for neighbours and acquaintances who aren’t particularly close to the family.


  • I remember toast being high on the meals list in those early days haha


  • I would never dream of asking for such things.


  • Sounds to me he suffers a tat of Grandiose delusions, the king himself likes to be served. These are not things you request, but these are gestures offered by the community to people in need. Depending on the situation first time parenthood should not be particularly complex or demanding.


  • It is a lovely idea, but perhaps would have been better received If someone else had coordinated it for them..


  • Um, what? Far out, I really think humans are entitled little snowflakes these days.


  • Honestly I think it’s a genuinely good idea. We should be supporting people in the community not tearing them down.


  • How rude and presumptuous! Wait and see if anyone offers !


  • Well normally people offer first but I guess if you’re brave enough to ask then go for it.


  • lol! I would be very embarrassed if my husband put this sort of request out – maybe if they already had other children this sort of thing could be facilitated through just family and friends (not social media!) but it’s their first – he only has to cook for himself and his wife, clean up after himself and his wife, the baby won’t really impact too much on those sorts of jobs! – I think this is very unrealistic and quite frankly I think lazy and disrespectful to everyone else who has managed to survive after the birth of their first child without having to outsource everyday living jobs onto social media!


  • This sort of thing is normally offered by friends and relatives, not requested on social media.


  • Or, they could do what most other people do and meal plan, accept any food that is generously offered and just try your best. I’ve had two babies and only one person brought over food once (appreciated), and we survived! They will survive too


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