Comments on: My sons relationship with his dad https://mouthsofmums.com.au/forum/my-sons-relationship-with-his-dad/ Sun, 15 Dec 2024 09:46:09 +1100 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.40 By: mom81879 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/forum/my-sons-relationship-with-his-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-3034000 Mon, 27 May 2019 08:05:52 +0000 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/?post_type=mom-answer&p=1084870#comment-3034000 It’s not something you can force. Your son probably has valid reasons to not want to visit, he’s just not sharing them with you. 2 wives in 4 years could be part of the problem.

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By: mom81879 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/forum/my-sons-relationship-with-his-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-2004952 Fri, 09 Oct 2015 21:11:01 +0000 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/?post_type=mom-answer&p=1084870#comment-2004952 Wow, 2 wives in 4 years, sounds like your ex has issues! Maybe try some visits with the 3 of you, if he sees you’re ok with everything, he might accept dad again

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By: mom81879 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/forum/my-sons-relationship-with-his-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-1863516 Mon, 29 Jun 2015 09:46:30 +0000 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/?post_type=mom-answer&p=1084870#comment-1863516 No point forcing it, could end up making him angry with you. Sounds like time and patience is needed for this situation

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By: mom89016 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/forum/my-sons-relationship-with-his-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-1521910 Sat, 03 Jan 2015 20:13:10 +0000 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/?post_type=mom-answer&p=1084870#comment-1521910 I been there with my daughter, your is blaming him for leaving. It may help to meet at neutral grounds like a park or at your son’s place of interest for a few hour at a time.
I understand there will be some tension but it worth a try. At times the hurt between the adults and tension affects the little ones. Try a relaxing non tension place where the father takes him but your there as his security in site.

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By: mom93821 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/forum/my-sons-relationship-with-his-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-1519638 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 20:27:01 +0000 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/?post_type=mom-answer&p=1084870#comment-1519638 Also; I would recommend child friendly books on the topic of families. Sometimes looking at pictures and reading about families and what they look like helps and is less confronting. All families are different and made up in different ways and that is ok. The most important thing is that he feels loved by everyone! Again; good luck!

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By: buggeritliz https://mouthsofmums.com.au/forum/my-sons-relationship-with-his-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-1519188 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 11:59:56 +0000 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/?post_type=mom-answer&p=1084870#comment-1519188 All great answers here. I would like to suggest that you and your ex make peace between you all. Take him aside and ask him to try something different this year. Put aside all your anger and past. Make a pact (an agreement or treaty between two or more) Have days out together joining both families for the children’s sake. Go to the beach, the zoo, the local pool and picnic’s in small country towns park hunting. Adults need to show the bond they have with the kids and the adults… failing this method… You can get professional help at your local woman’s clinic (see a child psychologist) ask you doctor for a referral. The quicker the adults get on then the kids will be happier. Remember it’s hard for kids at school when making Father’s day cards when they have two and same goes for Mother’s Day. Explain to the teacher that your son needs two cards. Encourage your son to make these cards just because he love his Dad’s. Don’t wait until Father’s Day. Ask him to write Dad a letter and you can post it. Dad will love receiving a note a drawing or a story. Dad at home can have one too!

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By: mom115479 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/forum/my-sons-relationship-with-his-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-1518092 Fri, 02 Jan 2015 06:01:59 +0000 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/?post_type=mom-answer&p=1084870#comment-1518092 Having your son talk to the school psychologist would be beneficial as it would be difficult for you to remain impartial due to your involvement in the relationship. Talk with your ex husband about the current difficulties that you are having and explain the steps you are taking to try and assist your son.

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By: mom93821 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/forum/my-sons-relationship-with-his-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-1516688 Thu, 01 Jan 2015 19:42:09 +0000 https://mouthsofmums.com.au/?post_type=mom-answer&p=1084870#comment-1516688 Maybe he needs to speak to someone outside of the situation about how he feels; is there any other trusted person he could talk to? Good Luck.

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<![CDATA[ I been there with my daughter, your is blaming him for leaving. It may help to meet at neutral grounds like a park or at your son&#039;s place of interest for a few hour at a time. I understand there will be some tension but it worth a try. At times the hurt between the adults and tension affects the little ones. Try a relaxing non tension place where the father takes him but your there as his security in site. ]]>
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<![CDATA[ Also; I would recommend child friendly books on the topic of families. Sometimes looking at pictures and reading about families and what they look like helps and is less confronting. All families are different and made up in different ways and that is ok. The most important thing is that he feels loved by everyone! Again; good luck! ]]>
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<![CDATA[ All great answers here. I would like to suggest that you and your ex make peace between you all. Take him aside and ask him to try something different this year. Put aside all your anger and past. Make a pact (an agreement or treaty between two or more) Have days out together joining both families for the children&#039;s sake. Go to the beach, the zoo, the local pool and picnic&#039;s in small country towns park hunting. Adults need to show the bond they have with the kids and the adults... failing this method... You can get professional help at your local woman&#039;s clinic (see a child psychologist) ask you doctor for a referral. The quicker the adults get on then the kids will be happier. Remember it&#039;s hard for kids at school when making Father&#039;s day cards when they have two and same goes for Mother&#039;s Day. Explain to the teacher that your son needs two cards. Encourage your son to make these cards just because he love his Dad&#039;s. Don&#039;t wait until Father&#039;s Day. Ask him to write Dad a letter and you can post it. Dad will love receiving a note a drawing or a story. Dad at home can have one too! ]]>
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<![CDATA[ Maybe he needs to speak to someone outside of the situation about how he feels; is there any other trusted person he could talk to? Good Luck. ]]>
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