I still remember my child carer days. When planning for a child. A boy. Setting up the home corner for his interests. 

It was nice to see him engage with the dolls and hold them.

I am not a mum of boys, at all. But girls.  But I have noticed while gender titles are becoming more morphed, that we do tend to give girls the dolls to care for.

I feel we expect a lot of males, to be caring and to be nurturing when they’re often not given a lot of opportunities to try or to feel this is really apart of their role as a male.

A practiced skill growing up.

That it can be expected by an older male figure, even female that the young boy be rough-housing or be called a “girl” if playing with dolls or blankets and doll. 

In a modern era where men and women can have careers. Men and women can be at home with the children.

Some dads are brilliant with the kids and the best at running around for the after school activities.

But what opportunities as kids are males given to feel that these play opportunities are open to them? And not just on Tuesday/Thursday daycare days with the homecorner.

But as an integral part of their world. Open to them at school, at home, at the grandparents.

Boys Don’t Cry!

Domestic violence, which is an extreme topic but relevant to our society. Is this perhaps contributed by a lack of learning, growing up in the area of nurturing another human being. For boys. Encouraged more to be macho and to turn up the nose at dolls and girly things. To be tough on the footy field. To not cry.

Its certainly ok for the boys to be physical as kids, even encouraged to be, rather then expected to just turn into nurturing, connected partners and parents.

At  high school there is generally the task of taking home “a baby doll” to look after for three days. But in the scheme of things it’s not really enough.

Could more activities be created? More encouragement to be a nurturing human being from a young age for the boys?

For sure, girls can reach for the girly things, instinctively  alot of the time and boys go for the soccer field at lunch times. It’s their interests.

I do feel that boys could be assisted more, though with being able to be caring. Lessons on shared roles.

It is nice when a big brother is protective of his baby sister.

When a boy puts the baby doll to bed in the home corner at daycare.

I just think there could be more done in the way we talk to our young ones. The way in which we lead.

Old-school ways with the young boy being called a sissy for playing nicely with the girls and brushing their hair. 

“What are you doing playing with the dolls?”

These statements are not OK. Hopefully phasing out.

Perhaps there could be more in the school curriculum for boys to have caring roles. A lot of it is instinctive to be more boisterous and in stronger physical strength but alot is learned behaviour. Messages given, over and over. To the boys.

Then again the boy and girl titles are becoming debatable in this day and age. Times are changing there, too.

Living as authentic-self.

Do you give you boys dolls to play with? Tell us in the comments below.

  • Everyone plays with all toys.

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  • My younger brother and I used to play dress up, LEGO, anything really. Didn’t matter who they were intended for.


    • Exactly – toys for all – Lego is particularly terrific for being creative and using a lot of imagination to create and build.

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  • We had boys and girls toys around our house all the time and they picked up whatever they wanted to play with at any given time.

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  • My boy, 2, has a baby doll. He loves to push it in a pram and put nappies on it. He also loves cars and trucks. He can be whatever he wants

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  • The boys in my Year 2 class love playing with dolls and they also love to rough and tumble. Best of both worlds.

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  • Yes I bought my boy his own dolls, doll outfits and doll buggy. He loved playing with it.

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  • They should be allowed to play with anything

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  • My younger brother played with my dolls and wanted to remove the eyebrows and eyelashes.
    One of my dolls lost some. He had a long pull-along trailer that could be used with a tricycle, put put some rag in the bottom, one of my dolls in it, more rag on the top as a sheet and pulled it around the yard, That one was his doll. We played together with toys cars for hours. We made our own fun. I very rarely ever see a child / children amusing themselves these days

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  • my boys love their babies though they did loe their prams more because they could hoon around the house in them

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  • One of my older boys said that they were not dolls but figures. My youngest son loves his dolls and doing what normally girls used to play with when I was younger. His twin sister loves the outdoor stuff with her older brothers and father. I see nothing wrong with any children playing with any sort of toys whether they are boys or girls.

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  • We gave our boys dolls – the eldest wasn’t much interested, but the younger played with them frequently.

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