Please don’t take this personally, but, I don’t want to watch your child’s performance on stage… there I said it.

But I don’t mean it in a nasty way.

It’s just that I have trouble sitting still for my own child’s routine, let alone stick around for two and a half hours to watch everyone’s little ones perform.

I know, your child and their group are going to do an amazing job up there on stage, as is mine. But do we really have to stick around and watch each other’s child’s act?

Why Can’t I Leave?

If you got up and left before my child’s class started their performance, I wouldn’t mind. I know that people have things to do, places to be, I can empathise with that.

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Would you mind if I quickly bolted out the door as soon as my child’s gig was over?

It’s just that I’ve got a million and one things to do at home, not to mention that I’ve left the rest of my little tribe at home with their grandfather and isn’t part of the bonus of being a grown-up that I no longer have to stick around for the whole duration of these long winded events?

I’d Much Rather Do Something Else

Besides, if I had two and a half hours to spare I’d much rather spend it on myself doing something that I love. Free time is an absolute luxury to most parents…

It’s not a wedding after all…

I’m sure our kids won’t even remember being up on stage when they’re our age. So why in the world does the event letter state that I can’t leave after my child’s performance is over?

Is it because they suspect all the parents who are leaving are going to disrupt the course of the show? This may very well be a possibility, but in that case, couldn’t there be a pause after each act for people to leave if they so desire?

I feel like I’m walking into a hostage situation here!

If I’m paying for the tickets to watch the performance, shouldn’t I be able to leave whenever I like without the guilt?

Mums are all for eliminating ‘mum guilt’, so couldn’t I just waltz on out of there without ruffling anyone’s feathers?

It’s Part Of Being A Parent

When I was a child at school I looked forward to becoming an adult so that I didn’t have to wait around at what I felt were boring school plays… but I guess the truth of the matter is that growing up means having to be placed in time-consuming situations which you may not always enjoy.

So I guess I will go and sit through the entire ordeal without falling asleep or playing with my mobile…

I still think my ‘pause’ at the end of each act was a brilliant idea though… I mean they wouldn’t have stated that attendees cannot leave, unless they knew that most people want to do a runner just like me!

My child is only going to be up there for ten minutes max.

Perhaps if I’m being forced to stay against my will then I should be the one getting paid for my time?

With all due respect to your child, and mine, if I had a spare two and a half hours in my day, I’d much rather spend it catching up on sleep… not because our kids aren’t going to do a fabulous job of their performances… it’s just, when I signed up to parenting, I missed this in the fine print… the part where it states I would have to form part of the tribe and watch everyone else’s child as well as my own.

The Village

… and there it is! The answer! I am part of the village that will be there for you, and your family, cheering them on as though they were my own and helping to create a sense of excitement in the atmosphere because that’s what parents do best!

I guess I’ll see you at the hall! I’m sneaking in a flask of coffee, and enough food to feed an army, if you need some come see me, I’ll be the one in the back row clapping and whistling the loudest!

Do you agree with me? Tell us in the comments below.

  • I must be one of a rare breed that love watching little kids perform. The look of accomplishment on their faces is priceless

    • Yes. It’s just one of those little things we can do for our kids but with a major impact


  • I get you.But it’s sad if you are child has last performance and no one around Its a sad feeling.One or 2 parents leaving because of a emergency seems ok But hopefully this wont be all.As everyone has something to do


  • I sort of sympathise, but can you imagine being the last kids to perform, when the hall has slowly emptied?


  • I think the whole reason for them making you stay is so they have more than like 5 people watching each performance. It gives the children more confidence when performing in front of a larger audience, it builds morale and supports the school/organisation. Yes it can be boring but the kids are benefiting by people being there and seeing them perform.


  • I’m so with you!!! Some of these concerts go on for sooooooo long and you really want to support your child but it’s a tough gig sometimes. I don’t mind the school performances so much as you generally know other kids/parents but at dance festivals etc when there is no one else you know – you’re tired from taking and picking up your kids from all performances.


  • If you want to go, then go. No need to feel guilt. But in saying that, while I understand we all have busy full lives, would it really hurt us to slow down occasionally and just go with the flow, without looking at our phones and/watch. If your life is so busy week to week, and one performance/play every few months is a real time crunch, maybe you need to reduce your commitments so you can relax too without worrying about what you have to do next


  • Yep I hear you! Some performances just drag on for ages yet your child is only in it for like 5 minutes. It is draining waiting and waiting to leave. Life is busy people have multiple children and sometimes I don’t thing enough thought is put into the time and audience.


  • A lot of time and effort goes into performance for kids…enjoy them, they grow fast and the look on their face having an audience is priceless. If you need to sneak out, do so without a fuss


  • I happily enjoy the performances but if you need to go then do so quietly and with as little distraction as possible from parents who actually want to be there.


  • I understand the comments from this mum and sadly our lives are on fast forward. Because of this very reason I always took the time to relax to enjoy to laugh and to share these moments with the school and church community. I learnt a long time ago these moments won’t be repeated so I savored every moment that I could and we still laugh about lots of crazy things that happened.


  • sometimes due to commitments I have to leave, but most of the time I try to stay. I make sure that while the kids are performing I don’t talk during their performance, so if your kid isn’t performing please don’t feel that it is appropriate to talk during the rest of the performances, you ruin it for the other parents. -


  • If you need to leave, or want, then go.
    As long as you are there for your own kid, that’s all that matters.

    What about the poor mums who have 3 kids, with 3 different performance to attend, the full time working mum who’s boss doesn’t like giving her much time off. The stay at home mum with the mental load of the clothes that need to be washed, the groceries that need to be bought, the dinner and snacks that need to bee made and the birthday present for the party the kids have to go to….
    don’t judge. Come, don’t come, stay, leave… everyone has their own thing going on


  • I am always there and happily enjoy the performances. to me – this is my relaxation! but i would’t mind if other people left.


  • Yes it can be frustrating, especially when there are pressing things to be done but, it’s all part and parcel of being a parent and the kids love it and want support and applause from all the parents not just their own!


  • I do not look forward to these, but it is what it is.


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