November 13, 2019


It can be difficult to know when your family is complete, but what if you and your partner don’t agree?

With the nuclear family becoming less and less common, and an increasing number of blended families being created, how to know when your family is complete is more difficult than ever. The decision to have another child is ultimately a mutual one – biology dictates that – but what happens if you and your partner have different ideas about how many children you’d like to have?

A Complex Issue

The decision to have another child is not one based only on the feelings of you and your partner, but can also affected by other factors beyond your control. Financial implications, fertility issues and work commitments are just some of the things that need to be taken into consideration.

If your partner has said they don’t want any more children, the question is then whether you feel that decision is one you could live with says. We all know that relationships are built on compromise and respecting your partner’s feelings, but wanting to have another child isn’t really something you can compromise on. This issue becomes increasingly complex when one person brings children from previous relationships to a new relationship, and may not wish to grow their family any further.

What Is More Important?

For many people, the discussion becomes a tug of war between having another child and their relationship, forcing them to make difficult decisions and sacrifices no matter which option they choose. In these circumstances, counselling can be a great way to gain some clarity, confirm your priorities, and perhaps let go of the possibility of having another child if that is what you choose.

Just remember not to force your partner into something they don’t want either – you don’t want to have to twist their arm to convince them that more kids are a good idea! And if all else fails, perhaps getting a puppy is a happy medium?

Have you and your partner had a disagreement about having another child? Let us know in the comments.

  • I think you have to stop when one of you wants to stop. No child should ever have to find out that one of their parents got talked (or tricked) into their existence.


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