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We care for our granddaughter, she won’t wear dresses or skirts. Her graduation for grade 7 is soon. Don’t know what to do as they wear dresses. Tried talking to her but nothing works. Any suggestions.

Posted by deborah_osborne, 9th September 2014

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  • Why is this even an issue? Girls don’t have to wear dresses! There are lovely jumpsuits out there she might like. I’ve even seen tuxedos and pant suits on women. There’s definitely other options to a dress

  • I would let her wear what she feels comfortable wearing, so long as it’s not too radical for a school function.

  • What did she end up wearing… was she happy?

  • I agree with these other comments. Dont try to force her if she isnt comfortable.

  • I would let her dress in some nice pants and top:)

  • As many people are saying, you’ve gotta let her be who she wants to be. At this age they’re developing their own style. If they are made to wear something the hate and/or feel uncomfortable in, it will affect her esteem in a negative way. You need to be supportive of all her decisions whether you like them or not (unless it’s detrimental to her being of course)

  • let her wear whatever she is comfortable in!!! individuality is key

  • Agree with the replies,we talked & pants is what she wants .So off to Target ,real soon .Blouses &tops can be good as you all said .Think I’m more fussed than her .!

  • Does she have to wear a dress? Doesn’t seem fair to me. I would just let her be herself, you can get some nice dressy outfits that aren’t dresses – pants and top. There are bigger things to worry about than a girl wearing a dress. I would let her assert her individuality and wear what she feels comfortable in.

  • Let her be herself and wear pants.
    If you want her to look smart buy her a suit. They look great on girls as well as guys.
    Add a pretty tie or bow tie and she’ll look amazing.

  • Just dont force her, and let her be herself. I have been a bit of a tomboy, all my life. Take her to a nice store, and get a lovely pantsuit, maybe? Best wishes, and congratulations to your Grand daughter x

  • GREAT advice and suggestions from the moms as usual, my daughter is in her early 30’s and still prefers pants/slacks or jeans. She has gone to many of her friends weddings in dress pants and a nice feminine top with the occasional jacket/blazer.
    All the very best to her and you and wishing her a wonderful time. :-)

  • I was exactly the same at that age. I would wear a floor length skirt & a top (ONLY if I had too) but much preferred a nice pant suit with a shirt.

  • Great ideas ,I will see the school ,see if she can wear pants &nice blouse .I don’t force her ,shes had no parent for all her life .I just want her happy .Cheers

  • Does the school mandate that a dress must be worn? If so, that’s a bit outdated and they need to have a look at their policies. I hardly ever wear dresses or skirts. I am not comfortable in them. I much prefer to wear pants. Doesn’t make me any less of a female. There are skirt-pants and skirt-shorts (skorts?) around now (long or short pants with a flap of fabric attached to then to give the illusion of a skirt) – would that work for your granddaughter if wearing dress pants is absolutely out of the question?

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