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My 4 year old still hates haircuts. This has been an issue since his first haircut. Although I’ve managed to do it myself I would like to go to barber once we are out of lockdown but am dreading it. He literally has the biggest meltdown and I eventually just leave. Anyone else go through this? Any suggestions on how to make it less traumatic for both of us?


Posted by mom479049, 13th September 2021


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  • If you google hair cut sensitivity and look for occupational therapy suggestions you’ll have a lot more success hopefully , good luck


  • A treat that he really loves but rarely gets would be one way to bribe him into sitting still in the hairdressers. The ladies usually are better with toddlers than male barbers I found.


  • I’ve seen some hairdressers with those car seats in them.
    Maybe it will be a novelty for him to sit in one of the cars while he gets his hair cut?


  • My son ran around the hairdressers the first time I took him and found it distressing. I then tried to involve him in the process, and find the right person to cut his hair whilst providing treats and plenty of distraction. Persist. You’ll get there.


  • Lol, my 7yr old still hates brushing hair !
    Re hair cuts;
    Try haircuts at home. I cut the hair of everyone in the family myself
    (when youre not confident doing so you could take a hairdressers cutting course)
    Visit the salon.
    Go shopping.
    Try mirrors.
    Do silly.
    Add music.
    Add iPad / tv
    Start with partial nail clipping.
    Use a timer.
    Offer a reward.


  • The right hairdresser/barber makes a big difference. Consider offering him a treat if he sits through the haircut without fussing.


  • I would suggest finding a place that caters for littlies. These hairdressers have novelty cars and trucks to sit in. If this is a fun thing to a child going to watch another friend have their hair cut first then your little one might just jump up next. Ask a friend or cousin who likes having their hair cut and have your child attend the appointment too! Kids love keeping up with their peers.


  • My grandson is the same, he is autistic though. You might want to look into that and whether he is or isn’t it’s still a problem right! It’s not politically correct, but I’ve found lollies work a treat. If he sits quietly for 5 minutes he gets a lolly, 2 lollies for 10 minutes etc. This still may not work, but it may be worth a try.


  • The first thing is discovering the reason why he hates it- it sounds like he’s scared for some reason. Then maybe you could do some role play, plan a special treat afterwards or anything to make haircuts seem fun. Maybe even say his favourite toy needs a haircut but is a little scared and could be a big helper and get his cut too so the toy doesn’t feel so scared anymore.


  • Bribery ? There are many hairdressers that specialise in kids haircuts. There are even some that have motorbiles for chairs ! Hopefully you’ll be able to find someone in your area. They’ll know all the tricks I’m sure. The worst outcome could be that he has long hair. He’ll want to cut it one day.


  • I’m not sure where you are located but I’d highly recommend visiting a kids hairdresser with empathetic understanding staff. Usually the kids get to sit in a novelty chair like a space ship.


  • My 2 year old son has the same issue! Would love to hear from other mums on how they overcame this with their kids. I’ve tried giving him a treat, hairdressers with a ride on car instead of a normal chair, hairdresser with TV, cutting it at home (oh that was terrible) – no luck.


  • You may have already tried it but try using a social story approach. Talk him through what will happen and answer any questions he has. You said you’ve given him one which is a great start to practising with him what it will entail.


  • Have you tried taking him to those kid haircut places that have cars they sit in, kids shows on tv, toys, etc? My son used to also hate getting his haircut, he is 4 also. Ever since we started taking him to get his haircut at a place like this he absolutely loves it.


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