I am at my wits end with my almost 4 year old! I have tried every different method I know to try and get her to help out and do certain things (ie, pick up her toys, clean her room, listen while in shopping centres, etc) and nothing seems to work. She seems to completely ignore me, as if I haven’t spoken a word. In some cases she even does the opposite! This ends in a lot of frustration on my part and often her screaming because she hasn’t done what she wants to do. She also seems to be having a lot of screaming sessions over small things (her sister being put in her seat first, if I get to a spot or finish something before her or if she doesn’t get something she wants). It took over an hour the other day to get her to pick up 3 pieces of paper off the floor. We have had hearing tests done to make sure that’s all fine and they came back perfect. Her lack of helping and messy actions is causing trouble too, as my husband can’t understand how the house is so messy if I spend all day cleaning (which I do, and then is quickly undone) and he will have a go at me about it and saying that maybe he should spend all day at work and then come home to clean. He also seems to think that I should keep going every night so that it is clean in the morning. All I want to do by then is sit for a few minutes and maybe watch some tv after the kids are in bed. Is there anything else I should be worrying about? Or is this just the typical actions of a 4 year old? And what methods have you tried that have worked. I’ll try anything! (almost) Sorry for the long winded question and thanks for your help!
Posted anonymously, 30th December 2013