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I had to put my father into a Nursing home over 1 years ago he was doing really good the first 6 months in but once Covid hit he went down hill fast refusing to come out of his room out of bed refusing to even Eat and Drink. He got to the point that he lost so much weight in the 4 months he lost over 20kg but I am sad to say he Sadly passed away and I could not even get there to say my Final Goodbyes
I miss you Dad

Posted by SpiritMum, 21st February 2022

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  • It’s never easy to say goodbye to a parent, and especially as you didn’t get a chance to say goodbye. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  • I lost my Nan last year.
    She was in hospital and I put off visiting partly because I hate hospitals, but mostly because I truly thought she was going home soon. I just hope she knows how dearly ai love her.

  • Oh this is so sad. I’m truly sorry for your loss and that you didn’t get to say goodbye; that must be so awful. Hugs to you x

  • Sorry for your loss.. I lost my mum just before COVID hit in 2020 and am so thankful I was able to say goodbye. Be gentle with yourself and recall the beautiful memories and he will never be far from you.

  • I hope you are doing a little better now! Losing a loved one is never easy, especially as you didn’t get to say a proper goodbye. One silver lining in all this is that he is not hurting anymore. He’s probably with other loved ones who have passed on, and they are watching over you wishing you the best!

  • I’m sorry this had to happen this way. You must be trying to process what happened and grieving at the same time. Can I suggest getting some counselling? Please take care of yourself and surround yourself with supportive people

  • So sorry to hear of the loss of your father, condolences to you. It has been such a trying time for all. The pain and sorrow, the loneliness caused by these past few years, and not being able to be there with your loved one during this time, is heart-breaking. Treasure your memories.

  • Thus is by far the saddest paragraph I’ve read in the longest time ????

  • So very sad. Send condolences to you. Covid has a lot to answer for. You have done all you can and handing your Dad over to the nursing home where he did have care 24/7 and a doctor on call was giving him the care you needed if you could not look after him yourself. It’s a big job. I worry that you will be sad for a long time. Please talk to a Grief Councillor maybe visit a Salvation Army Office and ask to speck to a Councillor. Talk it over. Your Dad and you have great memories of his life and your many years together. Honour him by writing his life story for sharing with the rest of the family. Add photo’s and funny stories. You might find this enjoyable and give you some peace and know that he would not want you to be sad.

  • I’m so sorry to hear about this. Sending you lots of love xx

  • My deepest condolences on yours and your family’s loss. We had a similar experience with my Mum. She needed to be in aged care as she was unwell. Her condition deteriorated and we had very little notice she may pass. My family lives on the opposite side of the country. Three days later she was gone. That was Easter last year. It’s not been easy. We had two weeks with family before we had to come home, and then the Covid situation blew up again over East. All I can suggest is to breathe and take things one day at a time.

  • I want to send you a warm hug. It is one of life’s hardest things to go through, to lose a parent or close family member. I lost both my parents ten years ago and I think of them almost every day. There is always something that reminds me of them. Please take comfort in all the good memories you have of your father.

  • In December / January we traveled to the Netherlands to visit my dad who was terminally ill. It was very hard to say good bye, knowing it would be the last time I would see him alive. Luckily my sister who is an IC nurse, was in the position to go with unpaid leave to take care for my dad and besides that we arranged nurses to come twice a day. Then in his last couple of weeks another sister who is a doctor, also left her job to help my other sister to take care for him. I realise it’s quite unique this was possible and am grateful for that. Back in Australia my dad went speedy down hill and I wasn’t able to be there in his last weeks. I travelled back to the Netherlands for his funeral.

  • AW bless you My Little Buttons ! So hard indeed, xx

  • You did the best you could for your Dad during this difficult time. It is so sad to lose someone you love.

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