Hello. Recently my daughter’s have expressed interest in having a new sibling. I’m conflicted, while the idea of a new baby feels exciting to think about, my babies are 14 and 9 years old. During the day, I find myself thinking of names and themes, I find myself in the baby aisle at stores and I feel happy about it, but in the quiet of the night, I almost feel afraid of the idea, and also ashamed because I feel selfish for my internal reasoning. (9 and 14! They can largely fend for themselves in terms of feeding (breakfast and lunch), bathing, and entertaining themselves, and if husband and myself want to go out, it’s as easy as ordering a pizza or picking up their choice of take out for them and letting them pick out a movie each for rent or PPV and we are good to go for the evening. A baby tosses all of that out the window. I know my girls would make awesome sisters, and they are old enough to help out with the baby (not fresh out of the womb, but a few months down the road) and that makes me feel a little better at night, but I still don’t know if it’s such a good idea. Any one out there with a fair age gap between children? Personal feelings about jumping from a more-than-two kid household? Or just any input in general?
Posted by Nervousnellie, 18th May 2021