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I am a new and first time mum and going through some depression. My baby is 7 months old and I am trying to get a job with no luck. I am so tired, he does not sleep through the night. I am getting bouts of depression, I get frustrated and find myself so angry at everyone. I am unable to just relax. Even at night even if he stirs in the crib I get up. I don’t want to be depressed or angry. I would appreciate any advice.

Posted by anon, 24/7/13

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  • I have anxiety and depression, the first signs or if I haven’t taken my tablets my little one senses it instantaneously! That’s when he starts feeling irritated and shows similar signs to your little one.
    If this is long term, I’d day medication is the best thing i ever did, councilling and a lot of other methods made me worse, pre-baby of course!
    My loved ones suffered the most, and as much as people are against it, medication was my best solution.
    You can’t live life constantly battling the blues.
    Especially when your a mum, do it for them :)
    Lots of luck Hun xxxx

  • Reading books about it helps!

  • That’s how I was all the time

  • Please ask someone to help you it can be overwhelming for a first time mum Good Luck

  • That’s. No good Is there any family who can help for u to hv a little bit of time to yourself?

  • it’s full on isn’t it. such a rude awakening.

  • Sometimes you just have to do what works for you and not worry about anything else. Hope things improve xx

  • Slow down and breathe. Is it necessary that you get a job right now at this very moment? Put it off if you can and concentrate on you. You need to look after yourself too, you are important. Surround yourself with supporting people and don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. Get someone to look after bub for a couple of hours so you can get some sleep. Step out into the fresh air and breathe it in, put bub in the pram and go for a short walk. Becoming a mum for the first time can be very daunting but just know that there is light at the end of the tunnel, you will get through this.

  • I’m not sure where you live, but have you enquired about “sleep” schools with your child health nurse? Both my sister in laws, went to sleep school where they were shown how to get their babies to sleep better. And both now have babies/children that sleep really well. Your lack of sleep would be effecting the way you feel.

  • There are some really good PND hotlines around, have a search for the one in your state. They can put you on to support groups etc to help you out.

  • See a Dr and a Baby Health Nurse and be open about what is going on. Once you feel better, other things will fall into place for you. Good Luck.

  • I’d suggest seeing your doctor, they will then be able to refer you to any other services that may benefit you

  • I found our local child health nurse was a great resource and they can help even talk things through or put you in touch with specialists who may help with the sleep; a babysitter for the night so you can get some sleep. They helped me through all sorts.

  • Please see your doctor they can help and get you to feel much better, it took me 3 years before i spoke up after my son was born and finally went when my 3rd child was born, and i feel much better. You have your good and bad days, take some time out 5 mins breathe and relax.

  • I think the number 1 important thing when you’re a parent and particularly when you’re stressed and have depression is learning to walk away. By that I mean when you get frustrated and baby wont settle place bubs in the cot gently and just walk away for a moment take a breath and try to put things in perspectic. It will get better. You’ll have your good and your bad days and remember bubs also picks up on your feelings. If you’re feeling upset it’s most likely your baby will be upset.

    I do have to say though although this is quite personal if you’re on any birth control that can cause problems too. For example I had the implannon put in after have my little girl and the first 12 months or so was horrible. I really felt like I was losing it. Although I still get depressed I think I cope a little bit better then I did. It’s also important to get me time when you can. If bubs sleeps during the day then take the opportunity to have a sleep or just relax for a bit even take the opportunity when you can to catch up with people relatives or friends even if it’s just talking on the phone, sometimes those little things help you feel a little better. Avoid people that are judgemental and make you feel bad about yourself.
    Maybe consider whether or not it’s worthwhile for you to go back to work yet. Although it’s probably tough money wise. If you’re not getting much sleep and you’re stressed this may make you feel worse. Just weigh up the pros and cons.

    Try to avoid caffeine because I found since doing that I’m feeling a lot better. I’m not getting angry or overwhelmed as much.

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