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Your partner helping you after the birth of your baby.

Posted by mom112217, 4th December 2016

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  • No I’m afraid not. Now the kids are older he’s better at it :)

  • I was really anxious about this before I gave birth because I usually do 90% of the housework and carry the mental load for the two of us so I was really worried that things wouldn’t go well after I gave birth due to my sleep deprivation and my husband’s inaction. 3 months after birth my husband has been more helpful than I anticipated. He helped with changing nappies, bathing, settling, and taking the baby so I could sleep more. He doesn’t do everything to my high standard but it’s good enough and I had to learn to let things go.

  • My husband was the best support ever.
    He helped me with everything (except poo nappies lol). I would have ended up with post-natal depression if he wasn’t there. I struggled a lot in the first weeks and he was great.
    He helped with the baby, chores and my hygiene too.
    We had no help from anyone so it was great to have him help.

    He took 3.5 weeks off work to stay with us. Couldn’t have done without him.

  • We lived interstate for our first baby. He was great! Helped a lot. Then we moved back to his home state and I was on my own. Back with his friends and family, he was off out 24/7

  • My partner was, he thought he was helping anyway. Men are great with specific directions, give him a list of things that will actually make a difference and see if he’s happy to follow through.

  • Hubby was great with helping, we were lucky that he had 3 weeks off from when,our daughter was born. So even taking care of her while I could have a shower etc was a massive help. Once he went back to work he did do long hours which was a hard adjustment. But she he came home every little bit helped even just whipping up a quick tea or giving lil miss cuddles so I could get things done. 12 months on I’m back at work so we are all learning time management, but we try to help each other out with sharing the load.

  • Not at the start.. I had a traumatic birth and he found it very hard to be around our daughter. He has improved now 6 months later and loves her to absolute pieces! He wants to do her first swim lesson just the 2 of them. I don’t mind that he doesn’t do a lot of the housework, he works 6 12 hour shifts a week. What matters to me is maintaining a bond with our daughter.

  • Yes with our first yes he helped cook (re-heated meals I had pre-cooked) and clean, vacuuming, moping, washing. He helped bath and change baby when needed too!
    With our second he was away for work which was unavoidable. :-(

  • Surprisingly yes! He was terrified of holding our nephews as new borns but with our own – he was an absolute natural! I consider myself lucky!

  • My partner was amazing, he was not ver confident about holding a newborn and needed a lot of positive reinforcement

  • My partner was a 1st time dad, me a 2nd time mum. I honestly didnt let him do as much as i should have and he let me stop him. He tried to help at night though. So id go to bed about 8pm and hed do the 8pm-1am shift, if she needed feeding in that time he’d make a bottle. If he couldnt cope (which was about 3/4 of the time) he’d come and get me. Bless his heart though.

  • That’s not very nice of him, Ellen. Did you ask him to help you?

  • My husband was pretty good. He helped me out with most things

  • No, mine not at all. When I came out of the hospital from a C-section, he didn’t even get the wash out of the line or vacuum for me, let alone change a nappy ….

  • My husband yes, completely. He had saved his holidays so he took 2 all weeks off work and the 2 weeks after he just worked in the morning. It was lovely to have him around, in particular counting that we didn’t have any family around and we were first-time parents. :-)

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