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My child’s school’s staff keeps changing all the time and I am so fed up of that.

Recently I got in touch with them regarding some co-parenting issues and this new person in charge I was talking to without having any empathy or knowing any background about us (even though my child has been attending that school for years now) straight away went ahead and threatened me that if I asked the school for support in such cases, the school has a power to make bad reports on parents regarding there lack of communication.

I felt it was a bit overboard this person who knows nothing and has gone way beyond to threaten me in a way. I am least bothered about that baseless threatening made but I was annoyed with that response and all this when I am the one who pays school fees. I was like telling myself, ‘Yeah you dare do that and I will stop paying your big fat school fees’.

To be honest I was not even asking for any help. We are less like co-parenting and more parallel parenting. I only wanted to know if my ex has completed certain procedures with the school or not it was not confidential information simple clarification, to that I get this threatening response.

Posted anonymously, 9th February 2022

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  • I wouldn’t have been to happy with that either..

  • This is really difficult to answer without knowing what the information was about but there’s a way of saying things without being rude and threatening.

  • I can see where the school is coming from, they can get in a lot of trouble giving information to another parent even if it is about your child’s other parent.

  • Sounds very upsetting. Sadly, places like schools have very strict confidentiality clauses on their info, very understandable with all the bad people out there

  • That’s quite disgusting behaviour coming from any school staff. Go higher to the education department.

  • The school can’t talk to you about your ex. Would you want them giving him info about you? Just communicate with them about your child. Do you have a court order or parenting plan lodged with a court or solicitor? If you do, give that to the school & that might help with the communication issues.

  • The school can’t talk about the other parent to you & it’s not appropriate to ask them anything about your ex. Stick to just talking to them about your child and all will be sweet! If you have an signed parenting plan or court order – give that to the school so they can follow it and if you don’t have one, I recommend you get one in writing asap! These plans usually help solve any problems really quickly! Best of luck with it all!

  • Wow. A threat is not on under any circumstances, especially these. I’m absolutely astounded. Are you certain there wasn’t a misunderstanding? or perhaps they perceived a threat from you and reacted very badly in trying to ‘attack’ you? I don’t want to defend them, but it does sound very bizarre that they would be like this. Communication is so important between school and parents/care givers. Maybe the ex can help explain?

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