Am I over reacting or this was really outrageous?

My child’s school’s staff keeps changing all the time and I am so fed up of that.

Recently I got in touch with them regarding some co-parenting issues and this new person in charge I was talking to without having any empathy or knowing any background about us (even though my child has been attending that school for years now) straight away went ahead and threatened me that if I asked the school for support in such cases, the school has a power to make bad reports on parents regarding there lack of communication.

I felt it was a bit overboard this person who knows nothing and has gone way beyond to threaten me in a way. I am least bothered about that baseless threatening made but I was annoyed with that response and all this when I am the one who pays school fees. I was like telling myself, ‘Yeah you dare do that and I will stop paying your big fat school fees’.

To be honest I was not even asking for any help. We are less like co-parenting and more parallel parenting. I only wanted to know if my ex has completed certain procedures with the school or not it was not confidential information simple clarification, to that I get this threatening response.

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- - mom481326 said
  - 12 Aug 2022
    11:17 am
I think that is terrible that they reacted that way. Schools are a service provider and people at schools are community facing. I’m sure like a lot of areas such as health care staff, emergency services, public service etc school staff and teachers face behaviour from people that they shouldn’t have a tolerate, but that’s no excuse for reacting the way they did.
- - mumof3 said
  - 22 Jul 2022
    7:23 pm
I feel like there is more to this story? That seems like such an odd response to your question. I’d be following this up with the principal.
- - curlytops said
  - 03 Jul 2022
    10:38 pm
It may be worth chatting to the principle
- - Zmijka86 said
  - 30 Jun 2022
    6:05 pm
Maybe you should talk to principal?
- - BellaB said
  - 28 Jun 2022
    7:07 pm
This is a very strange threat to make – I’m not sure how she would follow through! Yes it’s a bit outrageous.
- - ~Loui~ said
  - 28 Jun 2022
    5:08 pm
It might be good to talk things over with a year level co-ordinator or assistant principal. They are more likely to know background and have a better overview of situations.
- - mom160289 said
  - 27 Jun 2022
    7:00 pm
Seems like an odd response for sure. Definitely bring it up with someone else higher.
- - BellaB said
  - 18 Jun 2022
    6:41 pm
Report you to who? What a strange response. If this person has a supervisor, it might be worth raising the threats with them.
- - mom93821 said
  - 18 Jun 2022
    1:36 pm
A school principal is usually the best person to discuss issues with for action. Good luck!
- - kikidaz12 said
  - 14 Jun 2022
    9:04 pm
there is a lot of unknown in your post. However, if you are not happy with your treatment, ask to speak to the person above whom you spoke with. Explain that you are not happy/confused with the response you received.
- - cherz said
  - 04 Jun 2022
    2:19 pm
Bit hard to comment on when all the details and comments are unknown but I will add schools can not talk/comment on another parent.
- - mom301666 said
  - 17 May 2022
    8:47 pm
Sounds like they were given you the right information, but in an aggressive manner. They can’t give out information to you about the other parent, no matter who pays the fees. Hopefully you just got that staff member on a bad day, and that s/he doesn’t normally react in that manner.
- - chill said
  - 21 Apr 2022
    2:42 pm
I wouldn’t have been to happy with that either..
- - becstalou said
  - 20 Mar 2022
    6:12 pm
This is really difficult to answer without knowing what the information was about but there’s a way of saying things without being rude and threatening.
- - Jessica said
  - 08 Mar 2022
    9:05 pm
I can see where the school is coming from, they can get in a lot of trouble giving information to another parent even if it is about your child’s other parent.