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I was at a playground in the shops once and this little boy came up to my daughter , he started swinging his arms and pushing her a little till she left and wanted out, the parents of the little boy said nothing but is it wrong to tell the little boy not to do that when the parents are right there?

Posted by liana shattell, 18th November 2013

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  • Personally I would talk to the parents, but when the parents aren’t responding positively on that i would to steer the situation in a positive way and say to the boy “did you want to play with my girl ? do you want maybe play tip or so ?” and when that is not effective I would say something like “I don’t think my girl likes this so much, thank you for trying to play with her” and leave.

  • Gently tell the boy that it is not nice to push and then encourage your daughter to play away from him (for a little while at least). No point engaging the boy’s parents. They would have told him off in the first place if they thought it was wrong. You can never convince some people they are wrong.

  • You should say it – please don’t push, it can hurt other people. And glare at the parents.

  • You should have said something to the parents, its hard and each situation is different, Perhaps a short “mate that is not very nice, we share here” could have the desired impact I’m thankful I am yet to have this happen, most parents are mortified

  • there are some good comments here

  • I have had this happen to my daughter and same thing parents have been right there, I just said loud enough so the other parents would hear, for my daughter to grab her shoes, lets go for a walk and look at shops, you dont need to be bullied by other children, the parents just gave me a filthy look. Another time I actually approached the parents and said excuse me, your child is pushing my daughter, they said it was just their kid having fun so i walked up and again done the same, told my daughter we will go look at shops because she doesnt need to be bullied and that we will come back later when she can play without having other kids push her around, her response was ok mum, its not nice to push like that boy/girl pushed me.

  • I definitely would speak to the parents

  • you need to explain to your child, b ut unfortunately cannot talk to the other child.

  • I’d grab my daughter and say “let’s go, that little boy doesn’t want to play nicely, pushing is naughty isn’t it?” An d go somewhere else and have fun ;)

  • i would have said something to the little boy

  • that is horrible! Some parents!!!

  • Personally i would of told the boy that he wasnt being nice and if he continued i would of left with my daughter.

  • Personally it depends on the situation but if it continues and nobody does anything (as In the other parent) I will step between the children and explain it isn’t nice to push, hit etc and move my child to another activity.
    I try not scare the other child at all just explain that my child doesn’t like it when she is pushed. Then move away. If their parents have an issue I will deal with that in my own way.

  • I would make the boy apologize!

  • Kids at that age will learn how to defend themselves. We should be teaching them to stand up for themselves not doing battle for them. Step in yes if it gets very physical or verbal but a little pushing and shoving is nothing!!

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