Since the birth of our son, I knew our relationship would change. My hubby looks at me with more respect & is so proud of what I have gone through to bring our son into the world (he watched the birth) but now 3 months on, he is tired, hates his job & hates the house being messy but refuses to help clean up as “I need to lean the hard way ” like how he was taught.
We have no family or good friends near us to help and the friends that are here have offered to babysit but freak out when my son cries, struggle to hold him and have never changed a nappy. Yes I will happily admit I am a messy person and I find it hard to clean as I go. I’ve tried talking to him and express my feelings in a calm way, but he really doesn’t understand.
I’m really struggling with being away from my family and friends (we moved about a year & half ago) I know it’s a huge learning period for both us becoming parents for the first time. I’m really at a loss. I feel like he doesn’t notice me, unless it’s something negative. He is an amazing man and has no problem changing baby or bathing him, he plays and chats with him as soon as he is home from work and sometimes I take him to hubby’s work for his lunch break if I know he is having a very bad day.
He basically after that says hi, we get dinner on the couch (house is too small for a table), and then he plays PS3 with my dad & his best friend (online) till he comes to bed. Sometimes we might watch a movie and on the weekends we spend time together but he hates being active as he is on his feet from 8am till 6 every work day.
Just writing this down is making me feel better, guess I just needed to vent.
Any advice will be great.
Posted anonymously, 3rd October 2014