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I’m trying to get my husband to see a dr and get on some meds. he’s really stressed, angry, lost interest in things, and basically hard to live with. he is so negative all the time. he is currently seeing a councellor. My question is did medication help your husband?

Posted by mom111362, 25th May 2016

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  • How is your husband going now ?

  • Mine does, had it for decades. It’s easily managed with tablets and occasional psych visit

  • My husband was never depressed and on medication for that, but I was myself in the past and yes, it did help me. I worked for over 20 years asa psychiatric nurse myself and I know from experience that it can be very hard for loved ones to see their partner/child/family member depressed and aching. Listening, trying to understand, being there for them and encouraging them sure is important.

  • I hope all turned out well for you and your family.

  • My husband did when he was younger, and now he knows what his triggers and when he starts to feel down he knows how to combat it without needing medication. I hope that your husband gets the help he needs!

  • I’m sorry to hear that. With so much stress around us now I think all of us tend to feel like this now and then . As I get older , I think I worry and get anxious more . Maybe try and get him to open up ( harder with males ) and I find that they have higher expectations of themselves esp if they can’t accept themselves. Hope you can encourage him to see someone and to talk things out .

  • There’s so many pressures in society, and men and women both suffer from depression. Some medication work for some people and not for others. Natural remedies and walking can make a difference; try massaging your husband of an evening to help him unwind..

  • thanks guys, I’m going to go to a session with him and ask about medication.

  • Do feel for you.
    My hubby is very depressed at the moment, but he is seeing lots of specialists has cancer and kidney problems and just doesn’t want to live because of the pain he is in.
    I understand where he is coming from and am sure I wouldn’t want to be going through his agonies on a daily basis either – but it makes it hard for the partner to keep trying to be cheerful.
    Because of his kidney problems, he is one step away from dialysis, he cannot take most of the anti depressant medication, so it is up to me to try to keep his hopes up. It can be hard.

  • Yes it did i can remember after one huge argument one night and a emotional hubby it was just before 5pm…. I ended up passing my hubby the phone and demanded he either ring life life or his doctor as he was out of control and i couldnt cope any more myself.. Im also on medication.. It does help as long as they do take it.. If my hubby stops for more than a day or two i can always tell due to the anger issues that can go with depression… But at least your hubby is already getting some help.. The sad thing is people think they are ok when they are not, \
    Say if you were my friend and i walked up to you and said mate i love you but i think you need to get some help.. A level headed person would say Oh really.. but to be sure i will see my doctor.. A person who needs the help most refuses to see there is something wrong… My hubby was the same till he had no choice and rang his doctor… He was in tears when he rang and really emotional. and said im scared of ehat i might do…. They ended up telling him to come straight in and he did.. But i drove him…

  • not my husband but I must admit medication (must be take for a while to see results) but definatly worked for me. I lost intrest in everything and it was a horrible time, had to try couple of different medications til got right one. Councellling helps also as difficult to talk about things to friends and family for fear it may upse them!! there is usually a cause that triggers off this type of behaviour and feelings. Also it is more difficult for men to really say how they feel. So please show him this reply and hopefully he will seek help, better than feeling awful onc you get past the fear of having to ask fo help. A good councellor is sounding board for in mycase self to see that I had always tried to be happy etc around everyone,only increased stress when inwardly I felt lousy.. unable to cope and isolated myself…

  • My hubby was prescribed anti depressants. He was abusing alcohol and drugs after losing his mum and best mate 5 weeks within each other. He didn’t use them. He saw a mental health nurse a few times a psychiatrist once, but didn’t take the pills. I think he’s over the worst of it. But each to their own, you gotta find what works for you

  • I’m so sorry for what you had to go through, Kate. :-(

  • Sadly No. But that’s not to say it won’t work (medication)

    If I could go back (he is no longer with us) I would have been an advocate of helping him with looking after himself primarily whether he wanted to medicate or not.

    So good food. Exercise (he ended up with diabetes). I would have encouraged him out of the house more but it settings he enjoyed. I would have don’t a lot more had I have known any better at the time.

    However in saying that I know I can’t be someone’s 100% saving grace. I was too also at a loss of what to do but I was only 25 years old and still niave.

    I tried ultimatums out of desperation. I eventually became quite depressed myself because I had it in my mind that there was nothing more I could do.

    I’m not sure if that’s true. I just had hit my limit. Long story short like another comment suggested medication is just one part of the process. So if you try it think of it as a cast on the broken arm. It helps hold everything together but theres still healing to be done underneath

  • I can see why you are concerned about him & men historically just clam up & retreat into their man cave. It’s great he’s seeing a counsellor perhaps you can go see the same one too,on your own, so they can get your perspective on how he really is at home.

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