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I have a 13 year old boy, who is getting into trouble at school, suspended 4 times. He feels like he can’t redeem himself.  Teachers blame him before he does the wrong thing. He also has anger issues. Anyone know of any organisations or places where I can get him working towards a brighter future?


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  • Gosh, I don’t know where you should turn to for help first, but I do hope you find help for your son.


  • Sounds like my nephew, only my sister in law didn’t bother to do anything to help. So he’s 19 now, has a young child from a broken relationship and spends all his time in his caravan (he lives with mum and partner but they won’t have him in the house!) playing his game console and eating


  • It is so hard being a teenager. We’ve all been there, we know what it’s like!
    Bullying & peer-pressure could be underlying issues.
    You need to remind your son that he is only human & everyone has issues from time to time. Encourage him to speak about his feelings & his thoughts.
    Get him involved in a sport or hobby he is interested in.
    My brother was a very troubled teenager so my parents got him into a karate class. People worried that would increase his anger but it helped as it was a way of channelling his frustrations & provided him with structure & rules.
    Army cadets is another good option to help pull troubled teens back into line.
    It could also be his hormones.
    My Uncle was a troubled child & left unattended became a troubled adult, in & out of jail, turned out he had a condition & with the right medication he is like a new person!
    Have a chat with your doctor & maybe look into a counsellor.
    The best tip of all is to be there for him, listen to him, support him & encourage him to do his best.
    Wishing you all the best.


  • I lived your life babe – my son is now 23 and a divine young man. Involve a third party – if you have a good GP and a psychiatrist – someone they can talk to. My son was getting bullied, but acted like everything was ok. It is a hard age! Hey, stay strong, be consistent and be a parent as well as a mate. MOST IMPORTANTLY always listen to your son first – it is important they know you have their back…. Take care!


  • Sport is a great way to channel his anger in a more positive way, at the same time interacting positively with peers.


  • Change schools and see a councillor or school Chaplin.


  • Get him into a gym or some such that can help with his anger boxfit is what he needs to be doing its lots of kicking and punching mixed with cardio its an absolute god send for anger issues. Try finding an understanding personal trainer.


  • I agree with the mum below me, YMCA are fabulous. Is there a school councillor you and your son can have a chat to, and if the teachers aren’t giving him a fair go, step in and confront them, everyone deserves a second chance – especially children. If you get no joy with his school then is there an option to change schools? Sometimes a fresh start can do the world of good. All the best.


  • YMCA is a great place for troubled teens. They often have courses that can boost confidence. Or perhaps he could put some of his anger issues into boxing lessons or martial arts? Testosterone is a difficult thing to harness, but as a parent, provide him with as many options as possible and one of them is sure to stick.


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