Hello!

No nasty comments please….. My twins are 3 and have absolutely no interest in toilet training. I have tried only babies wear nappies, I’ve tried the fact they are going to kinder next year and need to be big girls and wear undies. You name it we have it in terms of the transition. They are happy to sit on the toilet and fill it with toilet paper, but have never actually been on the toilet. What am I doing wrong? Any tips or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.


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  • My three girls never learnt to toilet train until they turned 3. Pressure is the worst thing to do so I’d suggest make it fun, maybe a reward system when they go. Even making each other to encourage each other to go. Good luck.


  • I have an 2 year old girl. I work fulltime. We had our daughter in a family daycare. We had expressed our wish to introduce our daughter to using the toilet about 6 months ago – not to be pushy, but just get her interested etc. After 6 months of the daycare mum telling us not to push it, we moved her to a daycare centre. We love that they encourage and support our daughter to use the toilet. This help us at home, on weekends, to get her to use the toilet.
    We don’t get upset or angry if she has accidents. She still wears nappies while she is sleeping and more often then not, at home, she wets her pants. We also ask her every 30 minutes if she needs to ‘wee wee’. But that doesnt avoid accidents. And mostly, she just likes to sit on the toilet – the novelty I guess.
    All we do is tell her how awesome she is when she does use the toilet, high fives etc, and she loves wearing her undies.
    I guess what I am trying to say is that it will happen when it happens, every child is different. If there are other children around them using the toilet, it is a form of encouragement to them to use it also. I just would suggest not pushing them to use the toilet. GIving them easy access to the toilet. Celebrating them wearing undies.
    Don’t get upset if they have accidents.


  • You are doing NOTHING wrong, it is like a switch that needs to flick in their brain! Bribary works well for us, i say this on a lot of posts but it really does work in our house. But they have to want to do it. Have you taken them shopping to chose their undies. I did the whole “oh no poor thomas dont wee on him” etc worth a try!


  • You are not doing anything wrong. They will go when they are ready.
    Have you tried a reward chart, so when they do wee, on the toilet, they get a star etc


  • we have always started off with kids following us to the toilet, then seeing if they want to sit on the toilet or potty before bath/showers then move up from there to each nappy change, before and after food times, before and after sleeps and whenever you go to the toilet as well. When it comes to nappy free night times we would leave the kids asleep but carry them to the toilet and sit them there and tell them to do a wee (while still asleep), then take them back to bed (all before going to bed myself!)


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