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My husband quit his job to stay at home with the baby without discussing it with me! Has anyone else had to deal with this?

Posted anonymously, 24th October 2014

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  • I would really be sitting him down and having a discussion if I were you. A marriage is a partnership and parenting decisions should be jointly made and not on a whim.

  • No! We discuss everything and for such an important decision l would expect him to discuss it with me first!

  • This hasn’t happened to me and I would not be very happy about it if it did. Surely this is something that should be discussed as a family.

  • No. My husband and I discuss everything. Maybe he did it as a surprise? Good luck either way.

  • My hubby has quit jobs without consultation. He hasn’t even had the excuse of staying home to look after baby :/ I’ld just get home and there he’ld be on the couch. Hard times ahead going from two incomes to one

  • No I’ve never had that happen. Is there more behind him quitting?

  • Yes my husband has quit a job without discussing it. But in the end of the day, it was because he couldn’t tolerate one of the people at the workplace, the boss wouldn’t do anything about it, so he left! He put so many hours into that workplace, yet the boss never listened about a certain worker being disgusting and bullying other people there (not him, but people he personally knew, some were women)… My husband wasn’t going to stand for that, and just quit once the boss said ‘get over it’!

    He came home early, and I was like ‘why are you home?’ and he said ‘i quit my job’! I thought he was joking until the next morning when he didn’t get up for work, and slept 2hrs more (usually got up at 4am, to be at work by 6am).. Then I asked why, and we had a conversation about it. I fully supported his move, and he started looking for new work straight away! Got a better job, with much friendlier work mates!

  • Wow never had this happen to me thankfully. Now might be the time to sit down with him a figure out what is going on with him

  • Yes i did he then changed personalities and was starting to be horrible towards me, In the end i had to leave him i couldn’t bear it and now its me and my daughter on our own. I am not saying this will happen to you it is just my experience. He wanted to control me in every way possible.

  • i know that there is something else going on. chat to him. might just be an ego thing

  • Oh wow! This hasn’t happened to me and I hope it won’t. I would be pretty angry if it did happened. I hope that he had a good reason to do that and you had a nice talk about it by now. I hope you are ok financially and that won’t put a huge pressure on you guys. I also hope that he finds something else soon that is obviously going to make him more happier.

  • Oh what a shock. I’m not sure how I’d handle it.
    But you know men – not the greatest talkers. Maybe there was an ongoing issue he didn’t share with you? Or something serious happened and he doesn’t know how to tell you?
    It may not just be that he was being selfish or whatever.
    Hope you can find a way thru.

  • Oh wow. If my husband ever did this I would be so furious to the point that I think neighbors would call the police. That is just wrong!!!! I would be demanding he look for another job ASAP and to find any crappy job until he finds what he likes.

  • My goodness you must have been so shocked! I’m guessing he had a pretty good reason to do it though. I hope you are okay financially. I don’t know what to suggest except to talk to him about it and find out his reasons before going off the deep end (which I’d be inclined to do)/

  • Wow….I guess from your post you had no idea it was even coming!!! I think it should have been discussed or maybe he was put off and easier to say he quit. I think it is time for a friendly chat….good luck.

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