Hi ladies, I would really like your input on something. I’m 31yrs old and about 6years ago I stopped feeling like having sex. It’s been getting worse and worse. I am now at the point where I can’t stand it, I thought it was just because I was too tired at night but even when I’m not tired I’m just not interested. It’s caused a heap of problems in my marriage and hubby has even gone to stay with his mum for the past few months. Not even time apart is making me feel any different or making me miss him. I have 3 girls 13yrs, 7yrs and 18months. I’ve been to the doctor and he said spend time together but with 3 kids that doesn’t work and somehow I don’t think it would fix it anyway. I don’t have anyone to talk to as I had my first child when I was 17 so I lost contact with all my school friends. I don’t go out so I haven’t been able to make friends that way either. Has anyone else experienced this?


Posted anonymously, 22nd January 2014


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  • I’m like you, I can live without sex, take it or leave it, more often then not leave it



  • That is so unfortunate. I am 68 and still going strong. Have you seen a doctor or someone to seek help. Your problem could be due to something that is not your making. For instance your hormones could be out of wack! I mean that in the nicest way because they govern how our bodies mentally and physically tick. Hope this has helped you a little. All the best Robyn



  • I don’t have any suggestions sorry but you are most definitely not alone x



  • Good reading the comments there really quite interesting!



  • So a little bit concerned that u stopped being interested in sex 6 years ago yet u have a 18mnth old?! … so u r doing it…. just not enjoying it? I get like that sometimes but not for so so long! Definatly got to be something deeper and physiologically holding u back?



  • Not sure what to say except you aren’t alone. I have lost my sex drive too



  • never really enjoyed it. have you tried porn or toys? think its very common.



  • More common than I thought, interesting reading all the answers on here, looks like tiredness plays a big part.



  • I’m sure you are not alone in this, being a mother can be a stressful job and often the last thing on our minds is sex, I think our body clocks have something to do with this too. I would be going to see a doctor, your personal GP should be able to point you in the right direction.



  • I have similar feelings, I haven’t felt like sex for a couple of years now. I only participate to please my hubby. I am not sure what triggered this, as I had our son nearly 5yrs ago and it didn’t happen straight away. I am also very in love with my hubby, so our relationship is not the issue…



  • Talk to your GP, and ask to see a relationship counsellor or a psychologist. You really need to decide whether it’s a general lack of interest in sex, or it’s just how you feel about your partner in particular. And it is true in so many ways, that you less you have sex, the less you want it.



  • talk to a doctor and see where you can go from there



  • I lost interest in sex also, and the more you go without the more you don’t feel like it



  • it could be a stage or you have outgrown your partner and feel your kids give you all you need now and you don’t have to have sex if you don’t want it



  • i think its common in a lot of marriage but needs to be taken aside and spoken about and being able to understand each other


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