So I don’t have many friends. I have a lady I have been friends with for over 6 years. We have kids similar in age. She would call me constantly when she was on mat leave (we work together) and I would always make the time and answer or call her back. We also visited each other fairly regularly and our kids loved to play together. She generally called me everyday during the week (or I would call her). Things changed when I was pregnant with my fourth last year and have gotten to a point where I constantly feel upset by the situation. She never answers my calls and rarely calls me back. She was always a bit flaky and that was ok. I don’t think it’s deliberate, in fact I am pretty sure she is just caught up in her own life but I am over feeling constantly hurt and sad about the friendship…… or lack of. I don’t expect a lot. In fact, I would be happy with even a short phone call to say hi. I get life can be busy but lately a pattern has emerged. She will not contact me on her days off and when she does lately there has been a reason, like at the end of the conversation she asks how to do something at work. She hasn’t even met my son who was born late last year. Both times she said she would visit she cancelled on the day. I am just not sure where to go from here? Do I tell her I am feeling hurt? Or do I just give up and stop trying?
Posted anonymously, 24th April 2020