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Since birth my son won’t sleep. The day he was born he cried for hours and hours and wouldn’t sleep in his bassinet only when I picked him up as I had no choice it was that or he’d cry too much. He still hasn’t changed he’s impossible to put to sleep and he cries all the time. I get about 1 hr half broken sleep every night and I feel I’m about to lose it soon. Is anyone in a similar situation or am I the only one?

Posted by mom57665, 4th September 2014

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  • Not an isolated situation, a lot of new burns don’t sleep. My son was shocking for the first two tests of his life, then his son was shocking for the first two years of his life. I used to have my grandson with me for a few nights when I visited to give them a break. I think it helped, I hope so

  • I certainly think you are not alone. My son was like this and i found he settled really well in a sling which i wore all the time. He would also sleep ok in his pram (slept there for the first 3 months of his life).
    Are you able to give him to someone to watch for a few hours so you are able to get some sleep? Would co-sleeping work. It may help to see someone trained in dealing with sleep issue.

  • My son was the exact same! I ended up tag when people came round to visit, they pick him up and held got to sleep in their arms. They would then ask me where to put him, I knew he would wake if put down, so I let them keep holding him :0 lol

  • Still thinking of you. I hope you’re ok. Any luck?

  • I feel for you. An alternative to seeing a doctor is seeing a naturopath, if your baby has reflux, silent reflux, colic, etc they may suggest giving your baby a probiotic to even out the good bacteria in their gut. Bowen Therapy may also be something that you could look into, it won’t hurt your baby and may loosen something up and help him sleep. Could your partner take a day or two off work to help you out? I also suggest investing in a good baby carrier (sling, wrap or one that clips to you; I personally have a Boba Wrap and I love it, baby stays nice and close to me and he settles really well in it, go to a baby shop to try them all out first though to find one that suits you), it will give your arms a rest and most babies fall asleep in them, hopefully your boy will too and you could get a few minutes rest, even if it means sleeping upright in a chair. I hope you find a solution soon.

  • We used Tizzie Hall’s ‘Save Our Sleep’ and that worked wonders for our non sleeper. It’s full on and hard work but the benefits are WONDERFUL for both baby and you! Good luck!

  • I feel your pain, my son (now 7) was like that for 2 years, he had reflux and colic, was on reflux medication but that didnt help much. Nothing helped much. Had i known about the benefits of baby massage it would have helped me, i am now a massage instructor and the benefits would have stopped my son crying so much and helped my post natal depresion. good luck it is a hard time for you and your baby

  • I know it sounds frustrating, but keep going back to the doctor. As I said, it took them four and a half months to diagnose Master T with silent reflux. I was told all sorts of things in that time (he’s getting too much milk, he’s not getting enough milk, he’s allergic to your milk, etc). Ask your doctor if you can try a regime of alternating baby panadol and liquid mylanta (the adult one you buy ready made in chemists) every two hours to at least rule out silent reflux. If the poor little mite is in pain, the problem will just keep going and you’ll get no respite. If you can afford a nanny, absolutely get one in to cuddle bub so that you can get some rest. Buy some industrial strength ear plugs to pop in so that you are not subconsciously listening out for bub while the nanny is there. Still thinking of you.

  • Thanks yes ive been to so many drs they say hes healthy etc. I keep going to new ones and they just say the same thing. Ive tried to be strong for 6months but now its getting to a point. I dont eat any lactose as im intolerant myself they even tried me on diet off soy etc but no difference. My mum and mil work fulltime so i dont have anyone to help but i was thinking maybe a nanny can mind him for a couple of hours at mine while i sleep thats last resort from desperation.

  • I feel your pain my 1st born was the same. It turned out that he is lactose intolerant. See a doctor because there are so many things it could be. I hope you find your answer soon :)

  • You poor thing, nothing worst than lack of sleep. The first thing is to rule out any medical issue so book an appointment with your paediatrician immediately, then see your GP for your self. If possible to get a break maybe get help from a close family member such as your mum to take your son for a few night so you can get some decent sleep.

  • You need to see your doctor & tell him/her what’s going on. Your baby needs to be examined to rule out any physical symptoms like reflux & if ok see a baby sleep Dr or child maternal health nurse about settling techniques & ? maybe an overnight stay. Also your exhaustion needs addressing. Is there anyone who can help out? Friend’s or family? I’m worried you’re getting PND.

  • I feel your pain. When my first was born I was in the same boat. And not for lack of trying everything. At 4 and a half months we went into hospital (he had never slept for more than 20 mins at a time and has been literally attached to the front of me for most of that time) for me to get help with PND and pure exhaustion (now I truly understand why sleep deprivation is used as a method of torture). While we were there, my bub was FINALLY diagnosed with silent reflux. Once we started treatment things improved a lot, unfortunately he has never slept through the night though. But it’s better than it was. I hope you can get some help soon. I know how it feels when your world seems to be closing in on you and there doesn’t seem to be a light at the end of the bloody tunnel and it’s not fun. Make an appointment with a doctor for you and bub, make sure the receptionists know you need a long appointment. Tell them you are not coping. It does not make you a failure in any way, it makes you a mum who is in a tough spot and needs some help. Thinking of you.

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