A very good friend is having a baby and she’s a 1st time mum. A mutual friend and I are organising everything, but she is taking over and I am really hurt because she’s not letting me have any input in our friend’s day. Fortunately most of the problems so far have solved themselves, so I haven’t had to say anything- The mum-to-be has chosen the date and venue which is fine with me as it’s her day. I had a great idea for a “mum” gift for her because the baby gets so much focus and I think mums need a gift too. So I told our mutual friend and now she is doing the gift that I was wanting to give my friend. That really made me upset but mum to the rescue has thought of something else to do now, so I’m happy. But how do I tell my friend that I want to be more involved in our mutual friend’s day? So far every other idea that I have had has been shot down! I love both of my friends very much so I don’t want to hurt either of them but I think she’s over extending herself, and I don’t want to be left to pick up the pieces or fix it because she’s taken on too much for our mutual friend. I don’t think it has to be OTT (this isn’t the Real Housewives of BH). Our friend is super chill and something OTT is not her at all! I want it to be special and relaxed and memorable for all the right reasons! Any suggestions would be great!
Posted anonymously, 5th February 2014