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Hi Ladies, I’ve been invited to a hens do at my friend’s house, and wasn’t sure what to get her as a gift. I asked her and she had asked for money. She’s getting married soon and has asked for money too for that even though we aren’t allowed to the evening as she’s doing a no kids policy. Anyway, I’ve never heard of people asking for a money gift for a hens do as it’s not as though we are doing an event like cocktail making or anything, it’s just her Sisters laying on a bit of food and drink.
Do you usually give people money at a hens do and if so, How much?

Posted anonymously, 17th January 2021

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  • I dont think I’ve even been to a hens do. I’ve been to lots of other celebrations tho and have never been asked for money

  • No I’ve never done that! Sounds very odd to me.

  • Do what you feel comfortable with I guess. Your friend should be able to understand

  • Normally, with all the hen’s parties Ive organised etc, it has been either you chip in a little to cover the night for the hen to celebrate if you are going out (as well as paying for your own) however if it is a thing at the sister, I would take a little “farewell” to singlehood present (if it hasn’t been covered in the invite) for the honeymoon or something, I wouldn’t give money.

  • I thought a hen’s party was all about celebrating the end of single life with some drinks and games. Why the need for a gift? I’d either take some food or drink, or give the equivalent amount of cash that you would have spent on the food/drink.

  • Well if you’re attending and have to pay for everything yourself, no.
    Usually you pay a small amount to the days activities, but a gift of cash no.
    Save it for the wedding,

  • I thought at a hen’s party it was all about fun and laughter, saying goodbye to the single life. I wouldn’t be giving any money but I’d offer to take some food or drinks. I’ve also heard of people asking for money instead of wedding gifts but if you aren’t going, I wouldn’t worry about doing anything.

  • I think that is a bit odd? Never heard of giving money – maybe a little gift, some drinks or something slightly cheeky

  • any that I have been to have been that we chip in for the evening like the food, drinks and entertainment.

  • Shouldnt it just be something cheeky?

  • Really? You usually don’t give a gift at a hen’s party…

  • Gee she sounds like she just wants money, money, money! I wouldn’t get a gift, just your precense should be the thing that really matters.

  • No It’s always a gag gift (sex toy, sexy underwear, hand cuffs ect) Or something small, I got a nighty, hand cuffs, candles, Chocolates ect for mine haha

  • I’ve never given money, just a little keep sale gift to do with a wedding..like a box filled of her favourite things

  • I’ve never heard of or given a gift for a hens. It’s more of a celebration party event. The only time money is part of it is if your paying for youself to do something as part of the event or contributing to the food.

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