Best way to get a paternity test

Hello!

Hi would love for my husband to get a paternity test on he’s exes kid that doesn’t look a thing like him and no one in he’s family or in the girls family the only thing is we can’t afford a lawyer and can’t get it threw legal aid as they said we dnt have enough evidence we hardly c the kid and the mother won’t let us c the kid now that we have asked for the paternity test or we would have just dne it our selfs… Has any one got any advice plsssss

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- - mom81879 said
  - 09 Nov 2019
    10:07 pm
Loved reading the comments on this as I have a cousin going through the same thing, he’s paying maintenance for a baby he doesn’t even know us his for sureand never sees her because the mum won’t be allow it. A DNA test would be handy
- - serotonin said
  - 20 Feb 2016
    10:08 pm
If the mum had nothing to hide, why restrict access after requesting the test? Bit dodgy. Hope you find the answers you need and the child is okay afterwards. Good luck!
- - dannsbuild said
  - 27 Sep 2015
    5:37 pm
Really very interesting reading the comments on this!
- - Imogen K said
  - 17 Apr 2015
    8:00 am
Does she have the legal right for you not to see the child, if not you have all rights to go see the child and have the test done. The child in question is currently listed as his child, so as a parent he has rights. She cant tell you to keep away with the legal right to do so.
- - coppin85 said
  - 28 May 2014
    1:17 pm
i don’t have any ideas on how to go about this
- - Happymum-2 said
  - 21 May 2014
    9:30 am
this would be very hurtful for the child involved. parents are not who donates the sperm but who has been there for the child
- - christial said
  - 03 May 2014
    10:54 am
Does your husband want the paternity test done? If he considers this child his no matter what the outcome then it would be absolutely unnecessary. If he is concerned over passing child support for a child that is not his, then legal aid could probably help.
- - tilly said
  - 24 Apr 2014
    7:48 am
This is hard because if you don’t see the child it makes it very difficult to get the test done. If your husband had access to the children then you could simply go and get the bloods done. The only way around it is a lawyer to serve the mother with papers saying that is has to be done. Maybe legal aid might be able to help or I would even phone up and talk to the child support people, they may have some good advise.
- - mummy liana said
  - 27 Mar 2014
    8:42 pm
how did you go with it?
- - beccyg17 said
  - 31 Jan 2014
    7:49 pm
I think you need him and the child involved to get the test…so the mum would probably need to agree
- - mel1 said
  - 29 Jan 2014
    5:08 pm
Is he paying child support? I would think he would be entitled to a paternity test if he is.
- - snoopy said
  - 29 Jan 2014
    1:59 pm
I would just do the paternity test.
- - stephvel said
  - 24 Jan 2014
    8:41 am
yeah absolutely let your husband decided what he wants to do. I think a lot of new partners have the belief that the child does not look like their husband
- - hopefullyheidi said
  - 14 Jan 2014
    9:47 pm
Very difficult situation, with a lot of things to consider. Good luck to all concerned
- - BellaB said
  - 13 Jan 2014
    4:31 pm
How does your husband feel? It’s his call. If he really has doubts, and really wants to know, and really wants to see more of the child if it’s his… Then save up for a lawyer. But before you get too carried away, remember that genes are funny funny things and just because you can’t see a physical resemblance doesn’t mean that’s not his child.