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I am struggling with being made to feel guilty because I can’t breastfeed. Has anyone else experienced this?

Posted by robyn_smithwick, 27th May 2014

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  • Everyone likes to bring people down no matter what you do. You are doing the best you can for your baby, and that’s all that’s important. Ignore the judging, keep doing what you’re doing, guilt free

  • You have your reasons and don’t have to explain to anyone why or why not you breastfeed. Don’t allow other people making you feel guilty.

  • I struggled to breastfeed with the first one as I had numerous problems but with the second I was determined not to leave the hospital until I have mastered it and it worked don’t put pressure on yourself

  • I struggled to breastfeed and felt very guilty but it was the support of nurses and family that helped me to get over the guilt very quickly and focus on doing what was best for my baby.

  • Some people say breast is best… Well I say FED is best! It’s easy to say and hard to practice but, you are a mum you; created, carried, grew and birthed a tiny human. You are an amazing woman and as long as you continue to love and nurture your baby is doesn’t matter where the food/milk comes from. You are doing an amazing job you have nothing to feel guilty about! For your own sanity try and block out the people who criticise those that can’t or choose not to breastfeed. The people who generally critique are those who had all the time in the world to breast feed and never hit any hurdles or had pain with it! You are a supermum… Just do you, what’s good for you is best cause let’s face it if you don’t function that flows down hill and can cause everything else to fall apart.

  • Breast isn’t always best. As long as you are providing your baby with something which ticks the boxes with their nutritional requirements and sustains them regardless of if it’s breast or formula you are a good parent and you are doing the right thing by your baby.

  • Hi. This comment will probably sounds like an article. But here goes …

    I couldnt breastfeed too. I posted an article 3 days ago about stopping breast milk in this site so hopefully you will find it and help you.

    I mentioned I was saddened for very few articles about not being able to breastfeed and how you dont get much education about stopping milk.

    I was also made feel guilty about it. There are things you cant power through.

    Whatever your reason is for not breastfeeding, that is your right. YOu need to make a choice where both of you are happy. I wanted to vomit everytime my baby cries for a feed because breastfeeding for me was more painful than my labor.

    BReastmilk is best for babies … sure. We’ve all heard that! But what is best is that you and bub are both comfortable and happy. Bottlefeeding with formula is not a bad thing. My child is now 3 years old. Her first time being sick was when she was over 1 year old (and you hear adages saying formula fed babies get sicker more often).

    As a child grows, you wont be able to tell who was breast fed or not in a school yard. =)

    I know that it feels to be guilt ridden but please dont let it get to you please. It’s your body and its your baby. Its not like youre starving him or her.

    Be proud that you were able to carry your baby for 9 months, labor, give birth. =) Inability to breastfeed doesn’t lessen your worth.

  • Not every mother is going to be able to breastfeed. You must do what’s best for you and your baby.

  • I’ve heard it is really common – it was drummed into me through antenatal classes – breast is best. Great for those that can but loving and enjoying your baby is important too!

  • my boobs were so big and full I could not bend over without squirting, or put my arms down by my side, but my son was so not interested. different nurses, some were so pro feeding they were bloody awful, and others were cool.. One found me sobbing in the shower one day, and cuddled me and said, right that’s it. Nick is on the bottle (which he still would not take) but he is now a strapping 6’4″ and eats everything LOL

  • I successfully breastfed both my babies until they were 8 months plus and I felt guilty when I stopped. Guilt is just a big part of being a mum, no matter what we choose, we are still often to feel guilty about it. I’m sure there are reasons you’re unable to breastfeed, it’s not like you chose not too, and formula can’t be that bad or it wouldn’t be on the shelves

  • I went through this same problem, that my might never came through due to a condition, don’t feel bad. Be proud that you tried, its not your fault

  • sorry to read this. as long as you have tried that’s better than some people.
    im disappointed in my sis in law for bottle feeding as baby sleeps better! I find that lazy! im tired but if my 7 month old wants boob 4 times a night he gets it!

  • Why are you beating yourself up, you tried didn’t you? A happy contented baby and mum is better than a hungry whining baby stressing a mother, certainly breast is best but it is not always the case that this can be, I bottle fed twins, and then breast fed a singleton for 6 weeks, but she did not thrive on breast and the nurse suggested I put her on the bottle, she still took til 12 weeks to get to birth weight, she was just a baby that did not put on weight easily, If anyone asks why you are not breast feeding, glare at them and tell them medical advice, and change the subject. it is no ones business except yours, your partners and your baby, make your own decision, you are a fantastic mum doing what is best for your baby,

  • don’t beat yourself up! i believe breast is best but my first child was so hard to get her to latch on and it was frustrating. eventually i got the hang of it and it is very easy now. if you are satisfied that you have done all that you can, then don’t beat yourself up. At least you have tried which is better than straight up refusing to breast feed. I think that it is an individual’s choice to breast feed or not and if they are informed about the facts and chose not to feed, that is ok, that’s their right

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