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You hear so many stories about kids being bullied at school and online. It’s not only the children that get bullied. Adults get bullied also and I was one of them. I worked at an office for many years and we got a new Manager and then the bullying started. Yes everyday I would get bullied and to look like a total idiot in front of my work colleagues this went on for 6 months. I ended up leaving in the end as I could not take it anymore and I didn’t report it to anyone I was too scared too as I was just a little old worker up against a Manager so who would take me seriously.

Posted by SpiritMum, 9th March 2022

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  • I’m sorry to hear that there are lots of managers who don’t have any management skills. I hope you’re somewhere happier now.

  • So sorry this happened to you and I can understand being too scared to do anything about it. It is so sad that behaviour goes on. I am not timid but I would never talk back to a boss so they have always had it over me.

  • Sadly, bullying continues in life, some people are real bullies and they know either no different, or just don’t care. I went through bullying in a job, to the extent I decided enough was enough and I began to look for another job. Low and behold, my work decided to add an additional staff member and they enlisted the help of an employment agency. Not long after I got called into the bosses office, and during the friendly chat I was asked how my work was going etc. To my horror, the employment agency had forwarded ‘my resume’ to my employer, omg, I just shrunk in the chair. The chat led to I wasn’t happy in my position and was looking for a job with less hours. Anyway, to cut the long story short, I did find another job, and when finishing my current position, I sat with my boss and the manager and told them the real reason why I was leaving, which they were shocked about and hadn’t realised what was happening. It has been some years since I left, and I still remain good friends with both ladies, my x-manager and x-boss.

  • Adults bullying are the reasons are kids bully on the school grounds. They learn this behavior from these adults and unfortunately, these adults get away with it most of the time. I was also a victim of bullying in the workplace, local government in fact. I spoke about my bullying behavior concerns with my manager, I am a direct person who is not shy to say as I feel, she completely brushed me off and made it sound like it was a ‘me problem’ and all in my head – typical bullying and narcissistic behavior. I then reported it numerous times to HR who were aware of my manager’s bullying as it was reported by ‘many’ other people who had left, one was even on stress leave for more than a year – reported with Worksafe too. My report, unfortunately, went nowhere in terms of resolution, the senior managers loved my manager as she was able to provide the results they needed which in return made them and the CEO look ‘good’ in their roles. It was a toxic environment that had been going on for years, a routine embedded into the company that I, one person couldn’t fix. I tried reporting the bullying to Worksafe but the process to ‘verify’ the bullying was one that would cause more stress on the person reporting it and on top of everything they go through at work 5 times a week 8 hours a day, it is all too much to bear and Worksafe don’t make the process easy for the victim of bullying. After 10months of employment in this toxic environment, I exhausted all my avenues of reporting the bullying and realised the best decision for me was to leave with a week’s notice. I for one had never resigned from my job to not have another job lined up, so it was difficult for me to jump out of that comfort zone, but it was the best decision for me and my mental health and the health of my family as I wasn’t coming home being a stressed and teary mum to my kids.

  • I think you should come forward to your HR department.
    If you have evidence of anything like emails from them or even emails and texts you’ve written to other people during the time talking about it then you should gather it all as evidence.
    I’m sorry to hear you went through this but just think, you may be able to stop it happening to the next person if you come forward!
    Do you think you were the only one this person did this to?

  • I’m super sorry to hear you went through this. Sadly adults can be bullies as well. Unfortunately if nobody stands up to them they just keep going. Can you report it now? You have nothing to lose and might save someone else from going through what you did as once their target moves on they will usually turn their attention to someone else… Bullying in the workplace is taken very seriously these days. Its not on and it needs to be dealt with.

  • Yes, bullying can happen anywhere. Whilst many places say they have an anti bullying policy, they do not seem to act on it. Going to work is usually a place you go for a good chunk of your week, so you should be able to be in a comfortable environment during that time. Unfortunately there are some not so nice people in the world, and these people know how to get away with being nasty. Reporting people is not an easy task, as not usually taken seriously, but can also find that the nasty person puts the blame on you. I hope you have found yourself a good workplace where you feel comfortable and valued ????

  • How awful.
    You could talk to someone in work cover or fair trade. Chances are, if they bullied you, you’re probably not the first or last victim.
    There would be someone who takes you seriously.

  • How awful ! You could consider to report this person even years later. You never know he does it to other staff members too.

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