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Hi, One of my 3 year old twins HATES going to child care. She use to love it but since she moved up to the next room she has been miserable. I picked her up the other day from child care and she looked so sad and really doesn’t want to be there. Even with her twin there she isn’t enjoying it. She use to love going and we had no problems leaving her there but now it is a real struggle. Can anyone offer suggestions to help please? P.s no use putting her in family day care as we did this once and it was the worst experience.


Posted anonymously, 27th May 2014


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  • Have a chat with the carers. Once they’re aware of the problem, they will be able to keep an eye on her and let you know if anything is happening that could be causing this upset


  • I would talk to the teacher and see what the options are and see if you can make a plan/strategy together to make things easier.


  • My daughter went through a phase of this too. Turned out one of the older kids was giving her a hard time. Once we found out why she wasn’t liking it, we fixed it and she enjoyed it again


  • There must be a reason she has stopped enjoying child care. It’s important to find out what has happened. She might not like the change, or she might not like the new carers or children. Hope you can sort this out soon.


  • My daughter went through a similar experience. Ended up she was being harassed by one of the older kids. When we found out, and stopped it, she was right again. Could be underlying reason with your little one too


  • I do feel for you, I had same problem with my son, for childcare and then school. Have you tried to find out what her reason for her newfound dislike is? Have you spoken to the carers for ideas? Is there any chance you could spend time at the childcare with your child? Other than that, persevere is the only other option. Hopefully she’ll get past it.


  • Could they move her back to the other room?


  • Can you ask her why she doesn’t enjoy it? Maybe if you drop by the daycare in the middle of the day and watch for a bit without her knowing you are there?


  • ts sad :(


  • just have patients and lovey to her and she will get use to it and will love going , good luck


  • talk to the teachers and see if they can put her back into the other room until she is ready to move


  • it would be very hard, but try and stick at it so she gets used to it again


  • my daughter done the same thing and we couldn’t work it out and then she went to kindy and loved it


  • Have you spoken to the centre about what’s going on? This can help you understand how happy, or unhappy, she appears during the day. It can also reinforce your concern, and they may just have some ideas.

    Maybe the centres can move the kids back to their old room for a bit, then try again. Of they may have daily visits to the old room (and her old carers), to help her adjust. I’d strongly recommend talking to the staff in the centre first.

    And, if you’re not happy with their response, don’t be afraid to keep going up the line. I have spoken to carers who have dismissed my concerns, but then found the centre manager really helpful. So don’t hesitate to keep escalating the issue until you get a response you’re happy with. They should want to help you. They should want your daughter happy, want to keep your business, and want to ensure you recommend their services. Hope this helps.


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