Hello!

What do you think it means when a young female teen begins to give you tips around the house (like the proper way to store your kitchen knives, or putting a lid on a biro)? Lots of ‘tips’ have been emerging recently, that I’m happy to listen to (not necessarily take action on). For those tips that I don’t take up they are doing for me and changing things around the house! It feels like they want to ‘rule the roost’ and I’m wondering what is going on! I’ve said I understand their idea but I want to do things ‘my way’ for this or that reason but it continues! Any ideas? or ever had anything like this in your household?) (Maybe they will be a blogger one day writing ‘how to articles’ for about the house!)


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  • Let them take over. Seriously tell her your right, you can run things from now on. Give her a list of everything that it actually takes to run a household and tell her she can do 100% of it. Then sit back and let reality teach her humility.


  • I would try to approach it positively. She’s growing up and developing life skills and compliment her on that. Either just thank her for her tips and carry on your way or thank her for her tips and invite her to do the wash / cooking / clean and tidy the drawers and practice these skills in her own room. or with her own items. And praise her for that of course !


  • I would explain whilst you are appreciative of her tips most people have their own way of doing things, and when she has her own home she can put her ideas into practice. I’d say she is just trying to find her way in life with hormones raging, creative ideas etc. Take one day at a time.


  • Ask her once to stop changing the things you want your way. You’re happy to listen to suggestions but your house so your decision as yo how they are done. If she continues then keep going into her room to ‘organise’ things. Teenagers aren’t too fond of parents invading their space.


  • It’s kind of sweet she’s offering her advice, even if it’s frustrating too. Sounds like she’s developing a sense of more independence – forming her own opinions and thinking she’s right.
    One idea is give her a home project of responsibility. Like ‘great idea, would you be interested in rearranging the cutlery draw/stationary/ whaveter it is.’ Something you don’t mind changing (or you can sya we’ll try and change it back if the old way is easiest for you, assumably the MAIN house roost). You’re right though, she may be a great advice blogger or interior decorator one day ;)


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