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My daughter will be turning 3 in June. We don’t have friends with small children, relatives with small children and she doesn’t attend day care (therefore doesn’t really have any little kiddie friends). She occasionally attends a small playgroup but is shy and sticks close to mum rather than socialising with other children. I have a 5 yr old son as well who she has a great relationship with. So far we havent given her a ‘party’ as such but instead taken the family on an outing to a wildlife park etc on her special day. I am wondering what other mums think. Should the family just take her on an outing again this year or should we put on a party, invite children who she really doesn’t have a connection with and hope they attend? Thanks


Posted anonymously, 18th March 2014


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  • Keep it simple and comfortable for her. There are plenty of years left of parties. If she is not comfortable the whole thing was be extremely exhausting for you and her. If she loves animals wildlife park will entertains her.


  • Having a party might be a goodway to get to know the play group kids in her familar context


  • at 3 she wouldn’t really remember, saying that im a huge one for parties and my 3 year old is obsessed with them


  • My daughter was like that just invite kids like her organize activity they can all have fun and mix in together


  • I think it would be perfectly fine to go on a family outing again particularly if there is no-one to have a party with.


  • have you celebrated her birthday…how did it go? do let us know


  • I would have a talk to the mums that aare at playgroup and see if they will come for an hour or so


  • We usually had family bbqs rather than big parties. Parties started once they got to kindy


  • I would enjoy a family day out together. Once she starts school, she’ll have lots of friends and be able to have a big party then.


  • Ask her what she would like to do! Wait until next year when she is at kinder for a party so she has kids she would like to have!


  • Do something that SHE will enjoy! If that means having a family outing ‘birthday party’ then so be it. No point having kids at her part if she isn’t going to enjoy it.


  • I would invite some of the playgroup mums with their kids for a small party


  • Up until 5, a cake party at playgroup is excellent even the shy ones love the excitement of the candles and cake. No pressure on the children. Once they start preschool etc, have a cake in class and invite her special friends for a birthday party or include the whole class whatever your daughter wants and within your budget.. Ask her, our kids did not expect a party every year or were happy with taking a few mates to the movies and back home for pizza and cake/icecream.


  • hope she has a great birthday


  • what did you end up doing


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