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She is only 6 but talks to me as if she is a teenager. I am the only person she has this problem with. At school and with everyone else she is very well behaved and very respectful but for some reason there is a huge issue with us and I am at a loss as to why or how it got this way. She is my eldest, I have 4 all together and they are relatively close in age. Could it be that she didn’t have enough time to herself before adding siblings? I am at a loss and everytime it happens I find myself feeling more and more hurt by it. I do try not to to take it personally but as the only person she does this to I feel there must be a reason.

Posted anonymously, 18th November 2013

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  • You have to let her know that you are not going to tolerate her behaviour and you are not going to answer or listen to her anymore as it is not respectful to you. I feel she is trying to show her siblings she is the eldest and by talking to you that way and your not reacting to it that’s it.

  • Oh my, our kids sure do know how to inflict the hurt. A lot of the time they don’t even realise. But know she doesn’t mean to make you feel this way, there must be underlying issues making her act out like this. I hope you figure it out

  • How is she with her dad? I wonder if it is attention seeking? Hope things are going ok now

  • It’s most likely just a phase, I’m sure it will pass. You’ll need some time and lots of patience

  • Tell her she can go to her room for back chatting.

  • You just need to tell her how it makes you feel I think!

  • Ignore her she’s doing it did a reaction and she’s successful she will continue .. Don’t home it attention as hard as it seems .. Just pretend you didn’t hear after a while she won’t get attention and will give up .. Stay calm

  • My 10 year son is the same – only does it to me and sometimes his older brother. It doesn’t make it better but I figure if he can control his behaviour elsewhere I’m the safe place where he can let everything go. In saying that he regularly gets banned from thing he loves etc for it. Any other ideas on how to handle it would be welcome!

  • Some do a good job with pushing with sitters too.

  • Think eldest think there boss ,might have to firmly let her know shoes boss &write all the things u do &what she does ,maybe she realize being a kid is more fun

  • I read that mum’s and daughters can be a tenuous relationship. And it gets worse into teens. I have 2 little boys so I have no real life experience. But I’d explain about respect and have a weird that means she is being disrespectful without growling all the time. If she doesn’t listen walk away saying when she learns to speak to me respectfully I’m happy to listen. But as I said I have no real life experienc…. except when I was 6…eep

  • 6 year olds think they know everything, if you take her to sports or something she loves, then punish her and tell her she cant go until she is a nice little girl

  • there is some really good comments here

  • Once she calms down and is back to normal behaviour, try and speak to her about how she acted and what she was feeling. Do not tell her it made you feel hurt as this will let her know she got a reaction. Just let her talk and try to understand where she is coming from. If she starts the rude behaviour while you are trying to speak with her, get up and walk away saying you will come back when she makes better choices with her behaviour.

  • Sit her down and all her why she is doing this. Tell her it’s making you very unhappy and see how she responds. It can be that she is jealous because she is at school while her younger siblings are at home with you? She could just be trying to get your attention.

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