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I’ve suffered from chronic pelvic pain for many years – I’ve seen doctors and specialists and have had medications, use natural therapies, heat packs – everything. But with young children I’m debilitated by this and would appreciate any ideas, tips or just others who have the same condition. I’m at my wits end and need some ideas or just knowing how others cope? As a single mum I can’t not function and most days I struggle to care for and play with my gorgeous kids. Thank you!

Posted anonymously, 24th September 2015

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  • gee things must be tough for you, hard enough being a single mum let alone dealing with pain. gee sweetie i hop they can help you out soon!

  • Thank you everyone who posted responses. Im relieved not to be alone, although im sorry so many others suffer pain as well. Ive still got no answers from drs. They cant find a reason. I have and will keep pushing for answers, but as one member said – it’s incredibly frustrating when nothing obvious is found and people start to doubt you. I have good drs who believe me and have seen me at my worst, but no answers. I havent tried chiro – thank you for the suggestion. I am also going to look into and ask questions about endometriosis. One dr did suggest this might be whats going on recently but that was dismissed by another dr as I have arthritis already and that dr said its probably a flare up and to take more painkillers and anti-inflammatories. I cant take lots of meds when im responsible for 3 young kids. and i dont have arthritis in my hips or back, so that wasnt helpful from that Dr. Im totally lost and desperate for some answers and relief from this pain. Thank you for taking the time to read and respond.

  • All I can think if is paracetamol& hit water bottle

  • I don’t Know if you have ever tried a chiropractor but they literally saved my sanity, with my first pregnancy i was in so much pain i could barely move or even put my shoes on, by my second pregnancy i was only 10 weeks pregnant when it slipped out of place again, I went straight to a chiropractor for the first time ever and I never looked back, I went a further two times during my pregnancy and since then have been back every six months. they just click me back in place and within a few days im back to myself, my first pregnancy I tried physio weekly and it did nothing. I cannot recommend Chiropractors enough. they are not overly pricey either when you consider the pain they save you. less doctors visits and less need for pain relief meds etc.Good Luck

  • Yes I agree with checking for endometriosis, or even arthritis.
    I need to get some x ray as the right side of my pelvis, the joint May be deteriorating

  • Have you been checked for endometriosis? If they haven’t checked for this demand that they do. Endometriosis is a hidden pain that many women suffer from without knowing. It can cause a lot of pelvic pain. Google it and you will learn more about it and you can check if you have the symptoms. Might be worth considering. Good luck hope things improve.

  • I do aswell, have seen many doctors and have had many tests done and still have no answers. It’s excruciating but because the doc can’t tell me what is no one believes me.

  • ouch defo see the dr

  • I feel for you! I too suffer from chronic hip and lower back pain on a daily basis. Mine is supposedly arthritis, but I’m not so sure. Have you spoken to your Dr about it? Surely they should be able to recommend further help

  • I would keep going to the doctors and specialists until you get some answers. You should not have to live with this condition – in this day and age they should be able to help you with strategies to manage your pain.

  • I’ve had a similar problem after having my third baby. I could hardly walk, lift, bend or move in bed. Physio helped, exercises to help strength my core. I was on strong pain killers to help me move. I saw a sports physiologist and ended up having two cortisone injections around my sacroiliac joint ligaments. Remedial massage also helped a lot in reducing tension in the muscles in the pelvis and buttocks. I really hope you find some relief soon.

  • You poor thing I have chronic hip pain so I feel for you xx

  • Go back to your doctor and ask for advice to manage this. You may need some anti-inflamms to start off to relieve the pain. I suffered from this after the birth of my second baby and it was terrible. I tried physio but it didnt really help. Have you considered a chiro? If you can get a recommendation for a good, gentle one it might help. On the good side, my pain subsided and is now gone, but it did take a couple of years. I wish you all the best.

  • I had physio and part of the treatment was walking in warm water – I used the lower end of the baby pool so the water was only up to my thighs. So this may help you.
    I’m afraid I’m looking at a hip replacement, though, so can’t help you more.
    The doctors must be able to find something wrong – get some more opinions.

  • You poor thing. I don’t experience chronic pain, but I’m on my second pregnancy and have had really bad pelvic pain though both pregnancies. This time it started in my second trimester and it is very difficult to manage. Putting on pants is the hardest thing ever, not to mention trying to roll over in bed. I try to rest as much as I can, but it is a lot easier knowing there is an end in sight. Have you tried seeing a physio or something similar?

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