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I’m hoping to improve my sons behaviour. Any tips on a rewards system?

Posted by mom111362, 21st July 2015

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  • Honestly, we never found any rewards charts worked with our son, and we tried an awful lot of different ones.

  • One thing I would suggest when making a reward chard is setting things on it he already des well, so he gets points and feels good about himself and then add a limited amount of things he has to work on, some easier some harder. Give higher amount of points for the really hard ones. Also look what he can do with the points and try to interest him. For example 15 points for a bedtime extension, 30 for a movie, 50 points for him to pick a day out, etc

  • Yes I do hope you are having some success with your rewards chart!

  • I use stickers, and after so many than my daughter gets a reward for good behaviour, how old is your son?

  • printed a free one off the net, but need to laminate it. He’s 3 so not sure how it will go.

  • We tried for about 4 weeks, with only 4 easy items:
    Make your bed
    Unpack your school bag
    Put away your clothes
    Feed the dogs breakfast
    And my then 8 year just wouldn’t comply. He even argued about not getting pocket money. We used a chart and even a picture of a lego pack that he wanted. But still to no avail. He is now 9 nearly 10 and trying again, still got us nowhere.

  • Honestly I have Tried the rewards chart, but for me it doesn’t get to the reason why my children weren’t responding to me.

    I have found talking to my kids , really talking to my kids about their chores and maintaining the family home as a single parent family was the way to go.

    It works for us :)

  • Tragically, rewards charts haven’t worked with any of my kids. Some kids just don’t respond.

  • Hope you are having some success with your rewards chart!

  • Keep it simple. Just have one or two things on there to begin with each day, that they have to complete. Also have a treat they can earn daily, like making jelly, or building a den, or baking. Then have a prize at the end of the week like a new toy or craft material. Takes a couple of weeks for them to get the hang of it. Fun all round though.

  • Yes I use reward charts for my kids. When they do something good or get good reports from school, they get a star. Every fortnight I count up the stars that each child has & then I will buy that child a treat. This encourages my other children to behave as well.

  • We have reward charts for different reasons for all three kids in the house the only ones in common are for toileting properly, and sleeping the whole night in thier own beds. Other than that for my oldest who have behviour issues we also have on that we use on the days he is in a bad mood and doesnot listen. Everytime he does as told and calms down and stops what he id doing to do as we ask he gets a sticker. It usually takes a little effort but soon gets him out of his bad mood as he can see how good he is and how proud of him we are. We also have a chores chart for pocket money. Other than the pocket money chart we only give stickers as rewards as the kids seem happy enough having a competition to see who can get the most stickers.

  • MOM111362, I know a family who use that method. After the 2nd row has some on it there is a reward for completion of the 1st row., not necessarily money. It could be a special outing that the whole family will enjoy.
    Toilet rewards are a good idea. The only thing is a child can think they are a permanent reward and stop co-operating when you stop them. Our kids are only allowed to flush the toilet if they use it.
    One way of discouraging bad behaviour is to confiscate a favourite toy or ban TV or something similar. If it is continued defiance, confiscate or extend the length of time you would normally impose. Initially you need to explain to a child the reason why what they have done or said is not allowed. If it something you suspect they may have seen/heard elsewhere we were usually asked where we got the idea etc. from. It is up to you decide whether or not to discuss it with the parent of the child if another child is involved, to perhaps say to your child that you don’t like it and and you child is not to do/say………..
    My sister told her kids that just because….did/said it, didn’t mean it was nice/right etc.
    You may have to think about having your child assessed in case there is something you haven’t noticed.

  • I did, my son loved them, until he didn’t do what was expected, then he hated it!!! ask your kids what they like

  • Rewards charts can work …. check out pinterest! They have some great ideas

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