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It’s not a really big deal but we’ve had our dog for nearly 10 year and my other half has NEVER picked up the dog poo even though when he steps in it he gets really cross. I’ve brought it up because but he just throws back in my face that he is only one who does the mowing or whipper snipping or something like that. I’m also the only one who washes the sheets, makes bread and any number of things. Anyone else have normal everyday jobs that need to be done but if they don’t do it the other half simply won’t do it?

Posted anonymously, 28th April 2015

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  • My husband will vacuum but not mop he would never do windows never washed the cars but will do the shower and mirrors he will wash clothes and bring in but wouldn’t change sheets or clean an oven but we both do the lawns when ever which one is home and has time we both do dog poop collection equally but I am the dog washer he will cook if I leave food out with instructions but he would never just do it and he’d starve before grocery shopping or live on take out so still a bit of seperation in the his and hers jobs but I assume this is normal ?

  • I see those sorts of things as ‘unisex jobs’. My husband never has a problem doing it if I ask him. In all honesty he will usually do most chores I ask him to do. I do most of it but if there’s things I haven’t had time to do he will do it.

  • So many jobs! And my partner can’t use the excuse that he does this and that on his own as I do it all. Wood splitting, lawn mowing, cooking, washing. It’s really hard and unfair. If stepping in the poo isn’t enough to jerk him into action, I really can’t think of what will. Unless you start withdrawing some of the jobs that are yours only. It could get messy hey?!

  • My partner is good and if l ask him to do something he will!

  • My husband will only help out if I ask him. I used to wish he would show some incentive, but I’ve now given up. If I want something done, I have to ask.

  • Yep, basically anything to do with our dogs is up to me and only me. Vet checks, feeding, walking, washing….you name it. One thing my partner won’t do and drives me absolutely bonkers is throw out his recycling. He likes a beer during footy and drinks iced coffee, but instead of rinsing, crushing and putting in recycling when they’re empty, he just lines them up on the kitchen table grrrr!

  • My husband is very good at cleaning and I am very good at tidying. Obviously I clean regularly. I think your husband is rich for an argument after stepping on dog poo! . I don’t think he will suddenly start helping out.

  • My husband will help with anything, but there are some things where it’ll take him a long time to notice they need doing. They just dont register with him as much as they do with me.

  • Jobs are shared by mutual consensus.

  • Yeah cleaning the bathroom, ironing and mopping the floors

  • Never my husband did help occasionally when i was pregnant with the kids, but he never sweeps mops vaccums cleans up after the kids or the washing. When we did have a dog it was a small one and he just mowed over the dog poo saying it was to fertilize the garden. Oh and doctor appointments, homework etc for the kids are all my jobs to.

  • Yep I do. I just don’t think they really understand how much we do to keep the family and house running. It’s probably also maybe partly to do with how they were brought up perhaps?

  • We always had a bit of a deal that I would do inside if he did outside which I was happy with as gardening etc was not my foray. My parents were also the same but as they got older they both did the outside together as it became a bit of a passion. I unsure if I will ever get that from them, but I am happy with that arrangement

  • I am really lucky my husband will do anything that’s needed. Hubby does all the ironing in our household. Hubby does 95% of the cooking. Hubby will hang wash out and bring it in but we fold it as a family –I mean we fold and teacher our boys how to fold and put away nicely. The only thing that frustrates me about hubby is that he can’t make a bed to my liking. Hubby would get up throughout the night for the nightly feeds of both our boys

  • My husband is particularly amazing in this area. He says we shouldn’t have set jobs but both do things when they need doing, he’ll often mop the floor while I put baby to bed. Even so we end up sticking to our own jobs a bit. But we just need to say if we want the other to help/do ‘our’ job instead and we share. Even so he has a few things he won’t do! If there is washing he would never fold it, it wouldn’t occur to him. I’m pretty lucky with him though. Sounds like your husband wants you to appreciate his work but doesn’t see the work you do! That’s tough and would feel like a big deal at times! It’s not particularly fair to you.

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