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I feel like I should tell my partner I’m looking into it, I don’t want to put pressure on a new relationship but also don’t want to miss out on my shot for a family – any advice or tips if you’ve been or are in a similar situation?

Posted anonymously, 21st November 2019

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  • It depends on how new your relationship is. I definitely wouldn’t raise it unless you’ve been together for long enough to have at least a general conversation about the future.

  • This one is completely up to you. If your relationship is very new (as in a couple of months), I don’t think you need to tell him just yet. You could always just freeze some and tell him later when the relationship has time to develop a bit more. If it were me, that’s what I would do.

  • Be honest and upfront – maybe your partner doesn’t want any children in the first place.

  • Sure good to share this with your partner.
    I married when I was 38 and had my first child when I was 40yrs old, without egg freezing.

  • I think there are some really good points here.

  • Hes your partner you should tell him.

  • Tell your partner. You should be upfront and honest, it is an important issue.

  • I think it’s better to tell him.

  • I don’t think you need to tell him, but on the other hand if this relationship goes the distance, he may feel upset that you didn’t tell him earlier. It would have to be very casually discussed in a new relationship.

  • As someone who would need an egg donor to have another child JUST DO IT. Tell him if you want (with no pressure) but by all means keep it to yourself. Just think, you might break up with him and not find another partner till you’re in your 40’s perhaps. Wouldn’t you like some eggs in that scenario?

  • Nah don’t tell your partner, your choice, your future, who knows what the future holds.

  • Do what’s best for you. You’re not asking him to supply sperm to fertilise them. You’re not asking him to have a baby now. I would tell him what you’re doing, I think it’s important to be up front and honest but ultimately you need to do what’s right for you

  • I think you should definitely look into it now as time starts ticking more quickly after 30.

  • Just be aware it’s sill not a guarantee… But I think you tell him it’s keeping your options one, and I don’t think he’ll feel pressured.

  • Honesty….. PLS tell him… I’m sure he will understand..

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