I have a group of friends that I used to always catch up with on a regular basis. We all have young children so it’s a great little support group. I had my third child recently and since I haven’t been getting invitations to the catch ups. I have tried to organise them myself and they always get cancelled or just don’t come to fruition. We are all still friends and talk via text message regularly, I don’t sense there is a problem, I just don’t know what’s going on. Some days it gets me really upset and I start thinking stupid things like I’m not good enough, or not cool and trendy enough to hang out with them. And my children are very well behaved and polite. All the children get along so well, so I know that isn’t the issue.

Posted anonymously, 28th February 2014

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  • Are you still in contact with these friends?

  • I would talk to them and try to get some answers!

  • My suggestion would have been not to worry as it would work itself out. What did happen BTW?

  • You need to ask your friends why this keeps happening.
    Tell them its upsetting you & you’re feeling left out.
    They may not realize they’ve been upsetting you & may actually think they’ve been helping you!
    If they’re really your friends they will do more to make you feel included, if this doesn’t happen you need to move on & find new friends.
    Hope things improve soon!

  • I would discuss this with your friends as well!

  • sounds like somethings up ask one of them then move on

  • I would discuss this with your friends as it is obviously weighing on you.

  • I have found this with some of my friends to:( so I made new ones.

  • I would ask them directly, maybe they have been getting busy each time

  • i agree with another comment ..just ask straight up …God Bless and good luck

  • Maybe there really isn’t any catch ups happening, people get busy with their lives and partners

  • maybe you are being paranoid, just ask straight up why you haven’t been included lately

  • It is easy for everyone to get caught up in their own daily dramas with busy lifestyles & everyone has their hands full. However bailing on catch-ups seems to be a regular occurrence now. I would be asking one of them if there’s a problem.

  • Everyone can be very busy with their own families, they may even be thinking that they are doing you a favour by not bothering you. To get answers, you need to ask questions. Maybe next time you are texting each other, mention that you would love a catch up in person and see how it goes.

  • Sometimes friendship is having someone to text or ring when you need to, without having to see them on a regular basis. Maybe try having a monthly catch up instead.

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