Hi, I’m after tips to help transition from 2 kids to 3 with my youngest being very clingy with mummy. I am trying to get him to be less clingy and it doesn’t seem to be working and there is only 1 month until the new baby arrives. Please can anyone help.


Posted by seraphinameira, 3rd July 2014


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  • If a relative or friend is having your little boy when you have your new baby I wonder if he/she/they would be prepared to have your little boy for a few hours or even a day a few times beforehand. That way your little one may get used of not being able to be so clingy when you bring your newborn home. This will be partly influenced by the age of your clingy child. Perhaps get some books for your little one to look at / read while you are attending to the baby. Tell him/her you are busy, and make sure you spend a few minutes with the older children afterwards. I know a child who when asked to do something he was doing he told his Mum “I’m busy” He was old enough to understand that children don’t say that to adults.



  • mine got very clingy towards then end of my pregnancy, and i found it hard to do alot, but i tried to keep them included, got them helping with washing her clothes and linen, packing her bag, getting her bed ready, going to appointments with me, sorting through everything that needed doing. it helped form a bond with them from the start



  • It is quite common for the youngest to become very clingy during the final stages of pregnancy.
    Try to keep all children included. Assign them “Big Brother” jobs. You have 2 little helpers who will make the transition a lot easier than you think. Depending on the age difference of course. Also try to make sure you make time for 1 on 1 time with each child. They still need their Mummy time as well. I hope you have a good support system at home, or close by, & wishing you all the best with your new addition.



  • I have 3 boys I gave them their own babies to hold so that it prepared them for a new baby, once bub arrived they picked his outfit everyday and had to do very important jobs to help me. Bub also bought a present for them when he arrived that entertained them for a while.



  • Thers no difference you just need to devide your timeamong 3 now. Ask the older children for small assistance. e.g Can you please sing to your brother or sister while i dress him or her.Can you please help me pick out what cloths you think will be the beast to wear today xx All the best you can do it xx



  • How old is your youngest, it’s ok for them to be clingy. I have 2 children, one is 6months and the other is 2 my 2 year old is very clingy and jealous of little bubba so I alwys give him attention but also I tell him mummy loves brother too and I give brother big kisses, share you equally.



  • I have found that he is not as mature as my eldest was when he beccame a big brother (same age) and have been trying my best (with a 3.5yr old helper) to explain about baby and changes that will happen (i.e not as much mummy time). I already have packed a gift each for them and everyone knows to go to them first when they visit. I am hopeful it will be a smooth transition and I have just been overthinking it. Thanks Ladies



  • There is not a lot that can really be done before the new baby arrives, one thing we did when we moved from 2 to 3 was the new baby had a small gift for each child. I found that the issue was bigger in my head rather than real life, miss clingy seamed to accept the baby and it was smooth. Good luck



  • Have you made him excited about the new baby and part of it all? He needs to understand that he is part of the new baby.



  • I think rather than focus on how clingy he is being (as he is likely to get more clingy when the baby comes) – focus on ways to include him in looking after the new baby. Encourage story time between him and the baby whilst feeding, get him to help getting things for the baby – that way he can still spend time with you and bond with the new baby.



  • Not a lot you can do really before the new baby arrives. At the moment, even though Mummy’s got a big tummy, life goes on the same for your son. He’s still the “baby” of the family. When you have number 3, life will change as a matter of course for your son, and he’ll have to get used to it. Try and get him involved with caring for the new baby, tell him that Mummy needs his help, so that he still feels important, and not pushed to the side.



  • I think you will find that your two children and yourself will just adjust on your own i dont think its something that you can really plan for.
    I actually found that when i had my 3rd child things were much easier and i only had a 14 month gap between number 2 and 3.
    Honestly tho you will get into a routine really quickly.


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