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I am starting to get attitude and backchat from my nearly 5yr old. I’m trying everything but she thinks she knows everything. I knew I would get this at 15-16 but not 5!! Any ideas?

Posted by mumofthreemonkeys, 18th November 2013

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  • must be a 5 year old thing! my daughter and he attitude and thinking she knows better!
    we have good days and bad days, but I take away toys and tell her sternly that she does not get to speak to us like that,
    but to be honest it makes me laugh cause i cant believe some of the things that comes out of her mouth (not infront of her tho)

  • A lot of the time I had to turn away and have a quiet laugh to myself, unless it was super disrespectful or rude.

  • nope started getting this from my girl when she was 5. we extremely sternly told her that she is the child and we are the adults she does not know more than us. she is not to argue when we tell her something or back chat or interrupt adult conversations. if she does backchat she is punished either losing privileges or a smack or sent to bed immediately. even if its only 5pm

  • Thinking chair. But I don’t believe it ever stops.

  • Be firm and very serious, try not to smack!!

  • Be firm and serious!

  • My 6 year old is starting to do this too. I’m not sure how to deal with it either. I want him to have his independence, but this rebellion is just a little bit too early for my liking! At the moment taking away privileges such as tv is working somewhat, but I wish we didn’t have to resort to those measures.

  • there are some good comments here

  • my 3 year old does it but maybe not as bad as your 5 yr old

  • Some interesting answers below – have any helped?

  • how did you go with this :)

  • getting down to her level and talking to her could be a good idea. displaying the type of behavior acceptable helps and role playing might too.

  • i hope all went well

  • My mum had a funny trick of telling us to stay in our room and think about what we’d done and how hurtful that was!

  • Down on her level and let her know that it is not acceptable behaviour and that if she keeps it up there will be consequences (and state what they are, but you have to follow through with them if the backchat continues to let her know you mean business)

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