Has anyone had problems when taking the dummy away?

Hello!

I was hoping you could help me and my family! Four weeks ago my 2 and a half year old daughter gave her dummies to Santa in exchange for some presents. Four weeks on she is still not sleeping, she is very irritable, misbehaving more than usual and just isn’t her usual self. She is usually very outgoing, friendly and bubbly. Since taking the dummy away she has become very reserved, shy and even frightened of people that she would normally talk to. I know this may be developmental and the dummy may be coincidental, however I am considering giving the dummy back as she still cries for it and is in desperate need of some sleep…we all are! Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Emailed by Danni 17.1.2013

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- - Frankiielot said
  - 26 Nov 2021
    6:12 pm
Both of my kids rejected the dummy and I was glad.
Someone I know said to soak it in lemon so it has a horrid taste the next time the put it in their mouth and they won’t want it again or cut it worth scissors and say it’s broken and you can’t get a new one.
- - bad_girl71 said
  - 09 Feb 2021
    1:21 pm
Honestly if she is struggling that much then there is no harm in giving it to her just for sleep, she is still quite young and it is a soothing thing at that age.
I let my kids have it until 3 where they are in a much better place to understand giving it to the “dummy fairy” in exchange for a present and maybe that little bit older to be able to self settle and sleep without it.
They are babies for such a short time, there is no rush, if they are still struggling then its completely up to you to follow your heart as you know your child best.
- - BellaB said
  - 30 Oct 2020
    7:43 pm
I am so sorry. We found taking the dummy away was really easy – our son just felt it was time to give it up.
- - coastalkaryn said
  - 20 Sep 2015
    12:11 pm
no, I did it matter of factly – said he was a big boy now, and the dummy has to go to the babies – so we put them in a bag for the babies in the hospital xxx
- - coastalkaryn said
  - 14 Jun 2015
    4:18 pm
we put dummies and bottles in a bad, and took them to the ‘babies’ at the hospital. My son was awesome about it x
- - mom73576 said
  - 26 Aug 2014
    1:18 pm
Hope all is well now.
- - Mis Jo said
  - 30 Jul 2014
    12:10 pm
BIG TIME!!
- - mle00 said
  - 28 Jul 2014
    12:15 am
Hoping that things have moved on smoothly for your family!
- - mom63821 said
  - 14 Jul 2014
    11:48 am
Good Luck with this, my daughter stopped using the dummy when she got croup.
- - mle00 said
  - 31 May 2014
    8:32 pm
Thankfully my daughter gave up on the dummy herself when she was little but I can understand the pressure you must be under, it may pass or it may persist. You should do what feels right for you and your daughter, no child has had a dummy for life, she will move on eventually, its not really worth the stress of taking it away too early
- - mrsgreen12 said
  - 05 May 2014
    12:40 pm
Yes my son wouldnt give his dummy up as it was his comfort thing.
We eventually got it off him when he was 3.
We had the dummy fairy come and give him $5 (big boy money)
and she took it
We thought we would be up for a fight that night but he was excited to go to the shops with his big boy money and spend it the next day
- - jodie80 said
  - 25 Mar 2014
    9:25 pm
just keep trying dont go backwards
- - barch said
  - 31 Oct 2013
    9:32 pm
I’m yet to take the dummy off my now 2 year old, not looking forward to it.
- - meltingmoment said
  - 27 Oct 2013
    9:14 am
I hope she is better now without her dummy. It took my kids a few months to cope without them. One even resorted to sucking their thumb.
- - kjgarner said
  - 11 Oct 2013
    10:52 am
I hope that you have found a solution