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Need advice from other parents. My step daughter is becoming so forgetful when it comes to school and constantly leaving things at school. We have told her that once she takes her jacket or hat of it’s to go straight into her bag. She needs roll on insect repellant due to Mosquitos at the school, so I sent her some in her bag with her name on it on Wednesday, it didn’t come home Thursday or Friday and she has forgotten where she put it. Any advice on how to tackle this maybe in a fun way so it doesn’t sound like mum and dad are harping at her!

Posted by anon, 26/11/13

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  • I’d check with the teacher in case there is another problem your daughter is not telling you about. I wonder if she is getting picked on and the other children are taking her things – she may be too embarrassed to talk to you about it.


  • Have a talk to her class teacher. Maybe he/she can offer some tips too…


  • a little note book that lists out the things she needs to do for the day so she can always check on it?


  • Praising her when she remembers should help or a small reward. Perhaps even she can watch you pack your bag & u can do it together. She will get into a routine & should be second nature to her in time.


  • Definitely reward her for arriving home with everything. Also, let the teachers know so they can keep an eye out for missing items


  • the reward system may work, often children are too busy playing to remember to pick their belongings when the bell rings for class.


  • Rewards charts work well with my girls. Once she receives 10 ticks for remembering things, she can get a privilege or reward of some kind.


  • Maybe she needs a good reason to concentrate more. I started buying my girls jigsaw puzzles and ever since they are more focused, less forgetful and their attention span has increased.


  • You can approach it in different ways depending what suits her temprerment better. She could be encouraged to keep lists. This works really well for one of my daughters, and she really enjoys making her lists and ticking things off. If your step daughter is simply being irresponsible replacing lost items can be contributed to from her pocket money. Making her responsible might lead to her taking more care. Good luck.


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