My 14 year old has never shown any romantic interest in boys before, so it was a shock to me when he told me he thought he was gay. The same day I also received a call from the school counsellor to say he was suicidal. He suffers severe anxiety and is autistic. Last December he was very sweet on the girl next door, so I was shocked. I asked him why he thought that and he said he felt more attracted to males at the moment. I told him that doesn’t necessarily mean that he is gay, it could just be hormones, and that it is also ok to be attracted to members of the same sex, without being gay. He is a bit of a loner, no friends of either sex. I honestly can’t imagine him being gay, he certainly doesn’t act like it, so I am very confused. Either way it makes no difference to how much I love him, but I wonder if it the trendy thing to be nowdays? He goes to a rather progressive school which although fantastic, has some odd ideas of the world. So I guess my question is how do I help him know for sure, before he tells anyone else?
Posted anonymously, 17th March 2020