So we had chosen a name for our daughter who is due in August, and I thought we both loved it. My hubby has stipulated that he is choosing the name because I chose our first daughter’s name. I have requested that we honour my father by using his nickname ‘Darcy’ somewhere is our new daughters name. So we had decided on Delilah Darcy, that was until my MIL decided to make a comment, and now my hubby has decided he doesn’t like it :( He has now chosen Luna – which I really dislike and I’d really like some suggestions/advice on how to choose something we both agree on, or him ignoring his mother and keeping the name we originally chose…. TIA


Posted by hologro, 11th June 2016


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  • You might change your minds again when she arrives… we did with our son



  • I would have thought there are enough names around that you can both compromise and find one that suits you both as well as the baby. I will submit my suggestion “Quinn”. Good luck. Let us know how it works out.



  • Chose the name you both love,TIA is lovely!



  • Maybe you could come up with a totally new name and not tell anyone what it is.



  • Also, your choice of name is lovely.



  • Naming a child is for the parents and I believe kept secret until the birth of bub. Maybe have a heart to heart and keep it to yourselves.



  • once she’s born you may both go back to the original name choices – my partner and I did with a similar situation. But good luck picking names you both love



  • Guess I had free range in naming my 2 adult son’s. Before I was married heard name Gareth and thought if I ever had son that would be his name and is. My second son after complications came nearly 7 years later. I was considering Richard after Uncle of my husband but Gareth said’It will be bigg Gareth and little Dick’ did not like that so went to hospital undecieded until second son in my arms He was to be Stuart after my doctor (who did not turn up for birh so gave that flick) I looked at my new born and did alphabet in my mind of names, chose Christopher (Chris) both adults and happy with their names.. I gave them 2nd names after their grandfathers. My father had passed away before Gareth born so did not get to see him.Chris got my father in law’s name and he was very pleased. There are also name books no need to buy in library so why not you both go through them together you may be surprised. All the best



  • Hmm it’s hard to broach the subject when you both dislike each other’s selection. I would try and find a happy medium and different name you both agree on.



  • I love your original choice too and it is a shame it has changed, adding stress when you both least need it. Do you know why the name Luna has been suggested? maybe talking to the MIL and husband can help understand that and lay groundwork for negotiating just what they want from it.. or what they have against the original choice. While you say you chose the first child\’s name I imagine you were both happy with that and would want to both be happy with the next choice too, so could point that out, even if hubby ends up having \’more say\’ or listing his options that you can rank or something. There is always the option of formal counselor to help resolve and talk through it, but you have to pay for that (maybe MIL can fund the counseling if she has such strong opinions, or concede to leave you two alone!).



  • I would ask your husband to come up with other names that he likes and then choose from those names. Let him know that it can be a name he chooses, but it also has to be a name that you like.



  • I like marina amber meranda matty hope this might be something you might also like.



  • What did your mother in law say to change his mind and does she know the reason why you choose it?? Maybe once she knows she may support your decision.. Have a chat to her without him around, if you get along with her try and make the effort you might both come to a understanding and a new sense of respect for each other.. A while ago i had issues with my mother in law than i made a effort and she started to see why i had the point of view on things i do.. Goodluck..



  • You have to be happy with the name if you’re going to call your baby it. I’d sit down with your hubby and have a good heart to heart about the name Luna. Perhaps you could come up with some alternatives and get him to come up with some too, and go from there?



  • I like Darcy as a first name, not fussed on others, keep options open


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