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I’m pregnant and I want to implement a “no vax, no visit” rule for when my baby is born.
but I’m not sure how…
did you ask for proof? did you take people at their word? did you do something else?
I’m not trying to be rude but I know how naive people can be about whether or not they need boosters

Posted by stepmom107932, 3rd February 2017

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  • I took people at their word. When my nephew came down with glandular fever I asked him and his family not to visit until he was fully recovered. They didn’t have a problem with that and understood my concerns.

  • I think you have to take people at their word – but you also have to be very blunt and honest about your expectations. Most decent people will oblige.

  • It’s really hard, people would need to be really honest!

  • No I didn’t ask proof, personally I think that goes to far.
    I can imagine to talk about it with family and friend and share your concern, but the responsibility by them, asking proof is a step too far

  • My sister in law had a baby before us and she was a really annoyance to people about it. We all had to give her proof, she wouldn’t believe anyone’s word.
    I found her pretty rude about it sometimes, you should trust your family about it. And if you have friends, there is supposed to be trust in your friendship so why be so rude and annoying by asking for proof ?!

    I trusted people’s word for their vaccination with our son. I wouldn’t be around people I can’t trust. I asked my mum for a booster, which she didn’t want to do because she hates needles, but she did it (also in our country we acknowledge a 5 to 10 year old booster as still active).

    Just ask people nicely when they were vaccinated and if they can check if they aren’t sure. if they have no idea try to ask nicely for them to have a booster.
    But please don’t harass people with proof. If you don’t trust someone’s word don’t let them around your baby !

  • Its a really good question, we are a huge family and although hubby and I both got boosters we suggested everyone who wanted going to be in contact with our new Bub get boosters too. We didn’t ask for proof but said if they couldn’t/wouldn’t to wait until our bubgot his first set of immunisations before visiting

  • A lot of people do not have a good understanding of how a new-born can be at risk. If you can do some research and find out the facts of how many babies are affected by those around them being unvaccinated, you can present the information to friends and family to help them understand why you are not willing to take chances with the health of your baby.

  • I will no doubt tell everyone they need to be vaccinated or wait until (i think) 6 weeks to come visit! My sister did the same with her now 3 year old.. There’s also a pic you can send out or put on fb before bub is born – Here’s one I just found you could copy off

  • If you have trouble getting family and friends to immunize then its tough love on them! Its definitely not worth the risk to you and your baby.
    I have a select few I can rely on to be honest and others are sneakier so I’d ask for proof if you have those same feelings toward anyone.
    You are your babies advocate and you can implicate whatever rules you wish.

  • When I was pregnant by GP asked me to ask anyone that would have constant contact with my baby to have the whooping cough disease vaccines. When I asked my parents and brothers to have it they did so without hesitation as they understood the implications of not having it. If you bring it up in a nice way then no one should get offended and respect your wishes.

  • people tend to change the topic if they have not had their kids done.. I know in our mothers group there was one mum that didnt get them done.and tried to advocate for not having it done.. We ended up telling her we like her not her choices… That was till her oldest got the chicken pox.(they also seemed to get every bug going around). and got very sick.. WE ended up telling her to keep her crap at home till all illness had passed, with her next three kids she had the injections done every time..

  • For those who wish to spend time with your new baby, I don’t think it’s too much to ask they be immunised. I would like to think they would be honest when asked, but proof would be good

  • This is a tough one. But a very important rule too. I guess you will have to be strict and say exactly what your rules are before your child is born. Asking for proof I am not sure, I guess you will have to trust people. Maybe if you send out birth cards, you could write in the back something about how important vaccinations are for you, and which vaccines you expect visitors to have received. And that only vaccinated people will be welcome around your house till your baby is old enough to get his vaccinations. Hopefully people are honest in this.

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