For years ago I found out I had severe endo, had surgery and was told that it was so bad that my chance of falling pregnant was less then 1%. My sex drive almost instantly went through the floor. It was like part of what made me a woman and a person was gone. We wanted to have a kid, I already have a daughter from previous relationship, but we wanted another.
As with most men, a lot of my fiancees happiness comes from getting some action so he hasn’t really been truly happy for so long. He’s happy enough to get by, but because I’m lacking severely in any form of want for intimate attention he’s not truly happy.
Our sex life used to be great and he was pretty much always happy with how the relationship was, but since I’ve had no desire for sex, his happiness is getting lower and lower. He says he still loves me and isn’t going to leave, but I know he’s not happy to his full potential.
I’m not sure what to do, how to get the spark back, how to want him intimately again.
It’s been 4 years since our fairly active sex life went down the drain and now it’s barely even once every couple months cos I’m never ever in the mood.
Please tell me someone has some hints about how to get our sex life back on track, how to make me want to be affectionate again.
I feel as though I’ve shut down completely to any form of affection and intimacy.
I don’t want to lose the man i love, I don’t want him to leave, I don’t want to leave in the hope that he can be happier with someone else.
Posted anonymously, 13th August 2017