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My Dear old friend is about to go into a nursing home, he is so very depressed and so sad that his house that he has lived in for all his life is being sold.

He cannot look after himself anymore and has had a number of falls (I can’t lift him as he is a dead weight).

Please can anyone suggest something that I can do to help cheer him up?


Posted by mom57808, 8th January 2015

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  • Aw bless, it must be so hard.
    I think most important thing you can do is acknowledge his feelings and do the same for him as when he wasn’t living in the nursing home. Keep visiting him and maybe help him to make his room as much as possible his own, with his personal stuff

  • This is sad poor man
    Just visiting him and talking to him about life

  • I’d love to know how the move to a nursing home went. Did your friend adjust?

  • Having his own special and important items from home and visit as much as you can will make him happy.

  • If your friend is currently in hospital most of the have good social workers who may be able to help by either talking to him, or giving you suggestions and moral support. Has he been assessed by the Aged Care Assessment Team??
    That is the first step before you start searching. Most Aged care Facilities insist on one. If you can, make sure he has plenty of appropriate clothes and other thing he needs before financial details are submitted to a facility as they take assets (but not clothes etc) into account when calculating the charges.

  • just talk to him, be there for him, remember happy times. my oma is in the same boat, so sad for them :(

  • I think by the sounds of it just you going and visiting him would cheer him up :-) I would just say try to keep up the visits and if he can take any personal stuff with him help him organise and sort through that.

  • It does take a lot of getting used to, and some nursing homes are better than others. If you have the option try and research and visit different ones and always look and make note of how happy patients are and what activities the nursing homes have and how caring the staff is.
    Memory books and photo’s are wonderful for him to look through when he has some spare time. Do hope he settles well and all my very best wishes him and also you.

  • thankyou for the answers, I will be trying to do a lot of these answers… I am going to try and store a lot of his things at my home [ small items as I only have a 1 bedroom unit ] that has put a small smile on his face but he is still so very sad, it is horrible to see

  • Also; organise times with him for visits; ‘pop’ the times on a calendar and give it to him; a visit is something to look forward to and that will hopefully cheer him up.

  • I suggest making a scrapbook of his old home as he will be able to cherish those memories; include his new home at the end. It will give him the opportunity look back and reflect and share with others and this is important when you get older. Also; take some of his belonging from his old home to his new home and include something new too. Good Luck!

  • i am at this stage of life to know about this yet. that would be so hard for the poor man. hopefully he will settle in pretty quickly though

  • It would I feel be sad for anyone to have to be moved from your lifetime-home to Nursing Home. Fear of not being able to do what you want,would be scary. As he is now needing more help, having a talk about the risks to himself, also taking him to visit and see for self. My friends husband is in one she visits often and he loves it there. Nice gardens,birthday-parties,Christmas etc. he has more friends there too

  • Try to take as many things from his home to his new home -after all that is what it is, like a chair, soft furnishings, photos, TV.

  • Wow that’s a hard one…. I guess it depends on your situation, can you take him out for a day trip or plan a day trip for when he is in there.. Otherwise research the activities they have in there and focus on them and how much fun they will be, the ability to meet new friends to spend time with etc. Its a pretty tough situation, so good luck with everything.

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