Behaviour serves a function and what you need to do is work out what he is getting by behaving in this way. There are any reasons for behaviour such as seeking attention or having difficulty in getting his needs met (can he express himself sufficiently). If you can come to some sort of a reason as to the ‘why’ for his behaviour then you can make sure that you are not reinforcing it without knowing or realising it. Have consistent rules and consistent consequences for the behaviour that you are trying to change. Make sure that you focus on the behaviour not being okay, and not the child. Reinforce when he is making appropriate choices. The hardest thing is remaining consistent and that Mum and Dad are both on the same page giving the same message. You won’t get changes overnight and behaviours can often increase before they start to reduce, so expect that this may take some time to change.
Published 9th April 2020